

Maybe start by focusing on exercises to help them build better emotional self awareness. My SO and I both have ADHD. So we try to make a habit of taking the time to “check in”. We both take a moment to examine how we feel and clearly communicate our status to the other person. Making that a daily practice with your kids would be a really good first step.



I run Truenas scale on home server and on the off-site backup at a friend’s house. ZFS Snapshots get synced to backup server nightly. The snapshot system is nice because it only needs to send what has changed since the last synced snapshot.
Now that I have it setup it is mostly no effort on my part. But the initial ramp up to understand Truenas and ZFS was a second job for a few weeks. HexOS may be good choice if you want the power of Truenas but the handholding of setup wizards and such. But HexOS is currently $200 and Truenas is free. Pay in time or dollars.