I hate to say it, but now isn’t the only time it’s a problem.
This whole “you just need to practice more CBT skills” has been bullshit for like twenty fucking years or more.
I can “check the facts” all I want, if the facts are that things are irreparably and totally fucked and that this irreparability is hurting me directly I can’t “happy thoughts” my fucking way out of it.
I’m really tired of being told “you can’t change other people, so you need to work on yourself” when other people are allowed to be giant assholes their whole lives who never have to put one ounce of work into themselves and it’s me and everyone else who is a halfway decent person who has to spend their lives fucking working on ourselves.
The system is god damned broken and has been god damned broken when we practically reward the worst of us with never having to try to do better while telling the best of us that we just have to do better.
Isnt that almost impossible? I wonder how many lotteries you would have to win in a row to be as lucky as you would need to convince billions of people capitalism may be worse than another system and to do something about it
you dont have to convince people based on dry theory. revolution does not necessairily mean a momentary violent insurection that overthrows what was. a revolution can be the process in which you create the structures you wish to see in the future, in the here and now. you then convince people by showing them first hand that it works and that it benefits them.
What you need to realize though is that you can only affect so much. Mostly if you need help you should help yourself first. Then if you’re happy and capable, you need to help others. Not the other way around. So get with it and don’t hang yourself up on “shit is fucked”. It is, but it has been worse and it also can get worse. But that doesn’t really matter for now, help yourself first if you need to.
Like ofc it’s not wrong to also help others.
The situation is hopeless and has always been. But that’s not as bad as it sounds and it frees you and me from the burden of the world. Do what you can, that’s enough.
I’m having issues with CBT being used as a way to teach people learned helplessness where “you can’t affect other people.” Because, actually, society in aggregate (often called governance) can totally influence, affect, and change other people. We seemingly have given up on holding people who break the social contract accountable for anything while forcing those who do uphold the social contract accountable for everything. Fascism is the end-stage manifestation of that.
In my experience, in practice, it does more to teach people they can’t affect change more than it teaches them they can. It teaches them to be helpless on purpose.
There are many, many reasons to be upset about the state of the world, but the purpose of CBT is similar to the purpose of stoicism. It is not meant to teach someone how to interface with society, but with themselves.
Nobody cares for the most part about the intended purpose at the end of the day, they care about the actual impact which is that CBT is a convenient framing to exclude the non-individualist reasons people are miserable.
I hate to say it, but now isn’t the only time it’s a problem.
This whole “you just need to practice more CBT skills” has been bullshit for like twenty fucking years or more.
I can “check the facts” all I want, if the facts are that things are irreparably and totally fucked and that this irreparability is hurting me directly I can’t “happy thoughts” my fucking way out of it.
I’m really tired of being told “you can’t change other people, so you need to work on yourself” when other people are allowed to be giant assholes their whole lives who never have to put one ounce of work into themselves and it’s me and everyone else who is a halfway decent person who has to spend their lives fucking working on ourselves.
The system is god damned broken and has been god damned broken when we practically reward the worst of us with never having to try to do better while telling the best of us that we just have to do better.
I’m really, really over it.
Overthrowing capitalism is a pretty effective coping mechanism from what I hear.
Isnt that almost impossible? I wonder how many lotteries you would have to win in a row to be as lucky as you would need to convince billions of people capitalism may be worse than another system and to do something about it
you dont have to convince people based on dry theory. revolution does not necessairily mean a momentary violent insurection that overthrows what was. a revolution can be the process in which you create the structures you wish to see in the future, in the here and now. you then convince people by showing them first hand that it works and that it benefits them.
here is a great video on how to construct the revolution. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W9K6ISx8QEQ
it has a bit of a slow start, and feels academic but its very very insightful. absolute recomendation.
What you need to realize though is that you can only affect so much. Mostly if you need help you should help yourself first. Then if you’re happy and capable, you need to help others. Not the other way around. So get with it and don’t hang yourself up on “shit is fucked”. It is, but it has been worse and it also can get worse. But that doesn’t really matter for now, help yourself first if you need to.
Like ofc it’s not wrong to also help others.
The situation is hopeless and has always been. But that’s not as bad as it sounds and it frees you and me from the burden of the world. Do what you can, that’s enough.
I can highly recommend this video for reflecting on hopeless thoughts: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iJaE_BvLK6U
I’m not having hopeless thoughts.
I’m having issues with CBT being used as a way to teach people learned helplessness where “you can’t affect other people.” Because, actually, society in aggregate (often called governance) can totally influence, affect, and change other people. We seemingly have given up on holding people who break the social contract accountable for anything while forcing those who do uphold the social contract accountable for everything. Fascism is the end-stage manifestation of that.
In my experience, in practice, it does more to teach people they can’t affect change more than it teaches them they can. It teaches them to be helpless on purpose.
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Nobody cares for the most part about the intended purpose at the end of the day, they care about the actual impact which is that CBT is a convenient framing to exclude the non-individualist reasons people are miserable.
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