I’m a 54-year-old man, recently separated from my wife of 31 years - just earlier this month. Honestly, I’m already feeling bored and lonely, so I’ve been considering trying out dating apps (I’ve never used one before). However, my sons (30 and 28) tell me it’s a waste of time and possibly even a scam, and I’ve seen similar opinions online. So I’m not sure what to think.

  • protist@mander.xyzEnglish
    161·
    11 hours ago

    You want a GF to lock her emotionally away from the rest of your life?

    Wow, that was a huge leap there. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with not wanting to seek an intimate relationship with someone in your established circles. Like dating someone at work, this can come with significant social risk.

    • dustyData@lemmy.worldEnglish
      14·
      8 hours ago

      Not a leap. I’m basing my comment on the replies from OP that said that he is probably gonna divorce his wife — gigantic red flag, looking for dating advice not having being done with the previous relationship, but maybe that’s just me — because they were highly independent, drifted apart and wife leaving wasn’t even a lifestyle changing event. Maybe OP wouldn’t be divorcing if he considered women as something other than a source of romantic and sexual exchange separate from company, friendship and sharing a lifestyle. I’m just saying, OP sounds very sus.

      • kartoffelsaft@programming.dev
        3·
        8 hours ago

        Uhh… I think we might be reading different posts? OP has stated he’s already separated from his wife, not that he’s considering doing so. Also the thing about romantic/sexual exchange thing seems unlikely to me from what’s been said; men who think like that tend to not stay in one relationship for 3 decades.