I need to learn to establish boundaries (work, family…).

I found a book, forgot the doctor’s name but by the third paragraph he started mentioning the christian god.

hard pass. I want to learn about boundaries, not about your god.

  • tisktisk@piefed.social
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    Boundaries are deeply tied to one’s worldview, values, and understanding of human nature. If you reject the idea of a higher power or divine authority, you must still grapple with the question of why boundaries are important and how to justify them.

    If not God or a higher power, then what is the ultimate source of value and authority for setting boundaries? Is it simply a matter of personal preference, cultural norms, or social contracts?

    If you rely solely on human reason, empathy, and self-interest, you will struggle to establish a consistent moral framework for setting boundaries. For example:

    1. Why should you prioritize your own needs and desires over others’?
    2. How can you justify saying “no” to someone who is making a legitimate request?
    3. What is the basis for your moral obligation to respect others’ boundaries?

    Ultimately, your views on boundaries will depend on how you answer these deeper questions.

    In this sense, It seems looking to believe in boundaries without faith (or a deeper philosophical commitment) is indeed doomed to fail, not because faith is required, but because our understanding of boundaries relies on faith and trust.

    I know it’s not a good answer to the question, but Hopefully my deconstruction helps

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      This is so unhinged of a response I don’t even know where to attack it. I do everything without faith, I don’t believe in God, no higher power.

      It comes down to what I’m willing or not willing to give of myself, and no one should be taking more than that I’m willing to give.

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      Is it simply a matter of personal preference, cultural norms, or social contracts?

      So is god (or at least I’m sure you’d agree, the vast majority of gods), so not sure why appealing to a higher power solves this.

      If you rely solely on human reason, empathy, and self-interest, you will struggle to establish a consistent moral framework for setting boundaries.

      The framework is what’s healthy for you and others. Knowing your personal limits and goals. There isn’t some supernatural “boundary dimension” you need to tap into or anything.

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      Speaking of boundaries it looks like you need to be able to follow some yourself. This is not your opportunity to proselytize your beliefs.

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      Faith in others or trust in others has absolutely nothing to do with thinking there’s an invisible, ultra powerful person just chilling somewhere in space just because someone wrote a book about it 2000 years ago.

      Is the fear of hell or divine retribution the only thing keeping you from doing things that harm others? Yikes.