Plenty of people lack confidence or have an anxiety disorder, so would be predisposed to assuming that hanging out with them was a burden without any grounds to think so, and potentially feel like they need to include an apology in any invitation. It’s obviously not healthy, but it doesn’t mean that they’re right and that the advances are unwanted.
I said “likely”, as I realize that’s not always the case, but in my experience social anxiety is more likely to manifest in “I totally understand if not” than starting out with an apology in this context. That’s just my experience, but starting with an apology is often “nice guy” behavior, which makes sense because a lot of the “alpha” accounts are actually appealing to “nice guys” and not just guys who are nice that happen to have social anxiety.
Plenty of people lack confidence or have an anxiety disorder, so would be predisposed to assuming that hanging out with them was a burden without any grounds to think so, and potentially feel like they need to include an apology in any invitation. It’s obviously not healthy, but it doesn’t mean that they’re right and that the advances are unwanted.
I said “likely”, as I realize that’s not always the case, but in my experience social anxiety is more likely to manifest in “I totally understand if not” than starting out with an apology in this context. That’s just my experience, but starting with an apology is often “nice guy” behavior, which makes sense because a lot of the “alpha” accounts are actually appealing to “nice guys” and not just guys who are nice that happen to have social anxiety.