• HobbitFoot @thelemmy.club
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    7 days ago

    Not to sound insensitive, but if she was actively choosing to not go through chemo, what are the other options? It seems like the only options as you presented them were to go through chemo a second time, take this medication that may it may not work, or get her affairs in order and enjoy the last days of her life.

    I’ve seen other cancer treatments that aren’t chemo make it clear that the treatment isn’t chemo to accelerate adoption.

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      That’s what they were saying. It was humiliating and painful to watch their mother deliberately make choices that could not help, only to also be there for the fallout when none of it worked. On top of the guilt for the relief when it was over.

      They knew there was nothing that could be done; their mother made those choices. And all this person could to was stand by and watch.

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      In principle, there were many options: surgery, radiotherapy, chemo, immunotherapy and combinations. Depending on the type and size of the cancer chances for recovery are excellent.

      My mother had breast cancer a few years before which was treated with chemo. Of course she wasn’t looking forward to repeating that nasty experience. She thought it was her only option, so she downplayed it, delayed tests, was super subsceptible to misinformation and waved her family’s concern away.

      So effectively the only option was to watch her rapidly deteriorate down the path to certain death, telling us how Ivermectin’s effect on cancer was scientifically proven and that Jesus will save her.

      Sometimes I ask myself if it was just the cancer, or was it also misinformation and fake news that killed her. And how many lives is it taking?

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        was it also misinformation and fake news that killed her

        Yes. And the people spreading those lies are no better than murderers.

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      or get her affairs in order and enjoy the last days of her life

      You generally don’t get to enjoy those days if you have metastatic cancer. That’s not an option. It’s a horrible way to leave this world. The choices are to have a short, miserable life (whether with or without ivermectin), or a longer miserable life with chemo, with a remote chance of remission and and even more remote chance of cure.

      Source: I’ve lost friends and family to cancer. Of them all, one got a virulent form of breast cancer, did mastectomies followed by chemo, and has been six years cancer-free. It aged her and weakened her, but she’s still here. The rest, no.