So I met this girl by chance and we really hit it off, once I learned of her age I decided to just be friends as I think that 19 to 25 is an age were we mature a lot and I remember myself as a 19yo and I was not mature enough to be a good partner and to be good to myself.

I talked to a female friend of mine and she said that I’m over thinking it and that I should ask her out and be open minded, and so I did and we are going on a date soon.

The thing is, she seems really mature but I can’t put aside the age gap.

Am I over thinking it? Should I really just take it slow and just be vigilant about the situation and notice if this isn’t healthy for me or her?

Or should I let her down easy and continue as friends?

Update: We went on a date and it was great, I read all of the comments and there were some really good advices that I took to heart. I will take things slow and try to be as aware of the situation as possible. I hope it will go well :)

Thank you everyone!

  • focusforte@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    You are right to consider the age gap, I would say the best bet for you to mitigate your concerns is to not put any sort of commitment in place until she’s old enough that you’re not concerned about the age gap anymore.

    At 19 years old, you’re not even old enough to drink if you’re interested the US. I would probably say give her until 22 before you do anything that’s going to evolve any sort of commitment or possible long-term consequence for either of you. In the meantime, there’s nothing wrong with some low commitment dating.