To be fair I still do these things but only when I’m alone.
Personally I love finding big puddles and then dig drains with a stick or my heel and watch the water flow.
Also love to throw a piece of wood into water and then toss stones high up in the air and try hit it imagining it’s a warship I’m trying to bomb.
Then also without going into details there are some pieces of clothing I would like to wear but don’t because they’re considered femine or gay.
I’m so scared to be seen, that I can’t even go for a walk. I also want to get skateboard, but I can’t for the same reason. I’m terrified to be seen alone, or just seen in general.
Yet despite this, somehow I’m the opposite of that and manage a bunch of girls with compete confidence when I’m at work. I also have to deal with a ton of customers and don’t even hesitate to say no or let them have negative judgement to me. I’m very socially competent and meet new people all the time without fear of rejection and opening up. I definitely stand out, in a good way.
Yet I’m scared of them simply watching me going for a walk outside??
Breaking my very long period of unplanned celibacy.
I think I could get laid, but I’m worried I wouldn’t perform well in bed and that I’d be shamed for it.
I think I could get laid, but I’m worried I wouldn’t perform well in bed and that I’d be shamed for it.
You’d be surprised how many people are totally willing to work with you on something like that.
Not at my age.
are you really old or really young? Either way, I know I was always willing to work with whoever I was seeing even if they couldn’t perform like they want to.
That’s good of you. My ex wouldn’t acknowledge the existence of any problems at all. Like, our sex sucked, and she said it was great, then went and cheated.
If she’d done what you do — acknowledge and help tackle the problem — it could have been awesome. But she just refused to acknowledge anything was wrong.
Your approach says “You’re not there but you can get there”.
Her approach said “You’re hopeless”.
Before that relationship my confidence was fine and I was fine too. It really did a number on my head to have her lie to me about something so important.
That’s good of you. My ex wouldn’t acknowledge the existence of any problems at all. Like, our sex sucked, and she said it was great, then went and cheated.
That’s terrible and I know what you mean. I have had two different guys cheat on me cause they never really liked me to begin with.
And yeah, its so hard to trust anyone now because so many people come off as liars. Especially after being lied to about something so personal.
One little bit at a time. Godspeed in healing your trust!
thanks!
Pretty much that last paragraph of yours.
I don’t care if people see me as childish, weird, or even dumb. I do lots of things that make me seem all of those things.
But that makes me hesitate for some reason.
I did open up about it to some friends I was sure wouldn’t judge, and it helped a lot.
May i ask what kind of clothes you mean?
Skirts, dresses, thigh highs, crop tops, and just generally the womens section of the clothing store. So many items there that are a lot more interesting than what the mens section has to offer.
That reminds me of men’s haircuts. If you’re sticking to traditional short hair you basically just walk in and go… Okay, how much longer do I want the top than the sides and do I want a fade or a hard line? And that’s pretty much it.
Going for longer hair as a guy just gives you so many more options.
I’m so annoyed by hair… I want to let mine grow so bad, but pollen/dustmite allergies and long hair is an awful combination
It’s definitely got a lot of caveats. For me, it is annoying to need to put my hair up every time I eat, otherwise I eat my hair. But I love the way it feels moving around and if you have any social anxiety it conceals your face when you look down, which can be helpful as an instant hideaway.
But yes, it is definitely many times less manageable than short hair. However… I don’t have bedhead ever!
Wear a fanny pack/carry a non-backpack bag as a man.
It’s so convenient to have a bag full of stuff on you. Like I’m out and have a headache, boom Aspirin. At dinner and got some food in your teeth, bam flosser. It’s very satisfying when a situation comes up and you have the exact thing to solve a problem right there in your bag. But a backpack is too big and bulky and anything smaller becomes a purse and this looks down upon for a man to carry.
I only get the courage to wear it when on a trip where I can overly justify it. Like hiking, or a theme park or convention. I feel like if it was an everyday thing I’d have to explain it or hear about it more than I’d want to.
I see more and more men wearing fanny-pack-like crossbody bags where I am (Holland). Hopefully it will start catching on in your area!
I’m in Portland, OR and I see them a ton!
Farting in public. My friends got the view that it’s only a natural thing to do, so when we’re together we just do it without judging each other. The majority of people don’t think like it, i guess most find it digusting or take it as a reason to mock you. I don’t understand how we ended up like that. Guess humanity still has to grow up a little more :D
This is a good one, but I think it’s not all shame. Concealing farts in public is a game of skill. You must consider how to position your body so that no sound is made. How quiet is the area you’re in? Are there others around who could conceal the true farter? Are you able to discreetly move to another location so that by the time the smell arrives you’re no longer a suspect?
You also take into account your last eaten foods and recent farts and how they may result in large smell or sometimes no smell. It’s a big game of strategy and execution to be a covert farter.
It’s actually a very easy way to get other people sick, unfortunately.
What do you mean by sick, like infections?
I know viruses spread very well. Covid for instance
People get viruses like RSV + spread so much and they don’t even know
But not by farts… That’s a bit far fetched imo
He asked a colleague to break wind directly onto two Petri dishes from a distance of 5 centimeters, first fully clothed, then with his trousers down. Then he observed what happened. Overnight, the second Petri dish sprouted visible lumps of two types of bacteria that are usually found only in the gut and on the skin. But the flatus which had passed through clothing caused no bacteria to sprout, which suggests that clothing acts as a filter.
Well I’ll be damned!
Just keep your pants on I guess.
Viruses can go thru pants, for sure.
In a lengthy and seemingly humorous yet serious article on its WeChat account, the Center for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) of Tongzhou district in Beijing clarified that farts, normally, do not constitute another transmission route of COVID-19, unless someone takes a good and rather close sniff of gas from a pantless patient.
Seems not.
Yea they do spread by farts. I’m saying I’m not as sure about bacteria.
Do you need a link?
Why is that more far fetched than sneezes? It’s wet airborne biological matter you expel from your body.
Why do you think people’s natural reaction to farts is digust? Is that something people should be breathing in? Especially in an enclosed environment with such bad ventilation you have to inhale ass exhalations?
Approach any woman. Toxic feminism and selective acceptance of “patriarchal” elements and roles by women makes me keep distance. As a cis het man, I am scared of false accusations, especially since I am an INTJ introvert.
Women should learn to take the first step and approach men for dates, and become humble as a gender group, if they want to have the power. Not doing so only means that they want exclusively the benefits of “patriarchal gender roles” without dealing with negatives.
Wearing my comfy lil shorts 😩 I got a big ass and u kno
