Go back to Reddit, I thought we were beyond blatant woman hating shit

“I just want to avoid a problem I made up”

Yeah, that’s another thing. Especially common among “exiled Cubans”/Cuban immigrants, who all seem to talk shit about Cuba and support conservative anti-Cuba organizations - well duh, if they had liked it in their home country, they would not be in the US today.

It’s a selection bias. It reminds me of the times transphobes started picking apart transfeminine subreddits detailing how much misogyny, hentai, sexualization and typically male socialization things like hardcore gaming, programming, fringe ideologies and “edgy dank memes” were common there and that it supposedly shows that trans women are only really men. Well, duh, you’re on Reddit! Probably the most male dominated mainstream social media site! It’s not a trans thing, it’s a Reddit thing, and by just looking at Reddit, you are just looking at a subset of people who were socialized male and stay in those socialization spots. If they went looking for transfeminine people on more traditionally feminine-dominated social media sites like Tumblr or Instagram, they would find a completely different group of people who might look at the Reddit community with animosity. It’s like looking at women on 4chan for women’s issues.

All good, you did nothing wrong haha. I don’t think the other person was even genuinely criticizing your post, I think it was meant to be a lighthearted joke.

Besides, asexuality would be a lack of sexual attraction - I guess “agender” would be the only “a-something” that’s relevant to a male/female dichotomy.

See also: them now suddenly all caring about “the Jews” as long as it helps them put down Muslims, or the other way 'round.

The entire definition of “conservative” is built around “conserving” something that would otherwise be threatened by progress. Their entire thing is reacting to social progress and trying to prevent it.

For a reason.

Reddit in general is weird.

Also on Reddit.

:( Yeah. Feels like it.

Knew just enough to bully people for choice of distribution (and animal ethics stances, incidentally) using entirely inaccurate tired old stereotypes? There’s a use case for any distribution.

When did all the 13 year old Redditors invade Lemmy?

Unfortunately.

Sexual harassment is not funny just because the victim is a straight guy. If this happened to a woman, everyone would be rightfully up in arms.

The more you “they/them” this guy and conflate this with transphobia, the more you equate men with a crossdressing fetish with trans women. He did not deserve this obviously, and kinks are good and nice, but I am really, really over “allies” who constantly equate crossdressers and fetishists with trans people.

Or he didn’t know and it was just another appointment to cross off his calendar, most likely.

? why?

I thought we were past punchlines that entirely consist of “haha, sex”.

Yeah. That’s why no amount of appeal-to-morals arguments is going to convince them. Nor will facts. The reason why we should argue against their world view is to convince those still on the fence, those who are at the beginning of the pipeline and can yet be saved.

If someone is on the fence between “trans women are rapists pretending to be women to gain access to women” and “please don’t be mean to us”, then the latter is going to look like a weak argument and the former is going to look “reasonable”. Hence the “facts versus feelings” narrative.

We constantly need to reiterate the central point: that gender is entirely fluid and a social construct not set in stone. Because that’s a genuine argument that could convince people.

I appreciate the sentiment but this is just not a very good arguing strategy.

Transphobes don’t think they’re just ruining some poor innocent trans people’s lives for fun and enjoyment, but they actually think they’re improving society by combating bad people. They think trans women are just an evolution of “I can turn the lesbians straight with my dick” misogynist men, or out to abuse children. If those things were true, they would be entirely justified. But they’re not.

If trans people hypothetically were the abusive creepy harassers that they make them out to be, it wouldn’t matter how few there are in society. I am also sure child rapists or terrorists are a very small part of the overall population, but nobody would argue that people who try to combat child abuse or terrorism are “unfair” or “unreasonable” just because child rapists and terrorists are a small part of the population and there’s bigger problems to worry about. It doesn’t matter how few evil people there are if you want to combat evil.

The point that we should instead argue over and over again is that trans people are not perpetrators, and that gender is genuinely a social construct and not majorly biologically determined, so their genders are as real as others’ since they’re just a social performance anyway.

It’s like playing the women’s autonomy card against anti-abortion people. These people genuinely believe that abortion is cold-blooded child murder. And if that were true, then obviously a woman’s right to commit murder would be ludicrous. No wonder they think we’re crazy from their POV. The problem is, abortion is not child murder. We need to argue against their wrong world view.