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  • Lime Buzz@beehaw.orgtoAsklemmy@lemmy.mlWhy is NPD so stigmatized?
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    The Narcissist Scare by Sarah Z — This explains a lot, the term has been wildly misused and thus people don’t really understand what it actually means.

    Plus there is a focus on punitive ‘justice’ very much in the systems we live under instead of either trying to understand people and trying to help them either directly or indirectly.

    Allegedly, it is a difficult neurodivergence to live with in a healthy, non toxic way. However, I’ve never personally seen that from anyone I know officially diagnosed with it, in fact they are well aware that they have it and are trying to do better, a lot of people are armchair psychologists and love to diagnose with no proof, misattributing it to other things, either trauma or the systems we all live under which causes people to act in terrible ways.

    For those who have genuinely been affected by the actions of those who genuinely have it though, I suspect they feel as if they have to see as everybody with it as exactly the same to try to defend themselves. However, in actuallity this likely just makes people worse because not having community or people to point out when you are doing harmful things or getting you help is likely going to make people act out or seek out others who will reinforce their beliefs instead of encouraging them to get help in ways that actually work instead of the vitriolic hating ways most do to them. Though yes, I get that people shouldn’t have to be around those that do them harm but by seeing anyone of any group as all the same it may be doing more harm than good instead of getting to know individuals.

    Personally, I think a lot of the systems we live under don’t help with the behaviour of anyone with neurodiverse conditions nor those that need protection from actual toxicity because they are stagnating and do not allow those that need help to get it due to being alienating and often lacking the resources they need to get help.


  • We have been thinking long and hard about this and figured out it isn’t just one thing, it is a mixture of:

    • Capitalism
    • Colonialism
    • Patriarchy
    • Misogyny
    • Racism
    • Cops
    • Constant surveillance
    • Monoallocisbinaryhetnormativity
    • Queer{phobia/misia}
    • Representative democracy
    • Monarchies
    • The legal system in most places
    • Heirarchy in general
    • Authoritarianism etc etc

    All these things keep causing extreme harm to the people who live under them yet we keep being told it is for our own good by those who have everything to gain from keeping things the way they are leading to people either tearing themselves apart by trying to live up to the impossible system/standards or failing to do so and dying or worse.





  • The real problem is email is not a private communication medium or at least not easily

    We hope some day that something like darkmail will actually be a reality, until it is we recommend folks not use it as much as possible,

    Though for when that is necessary a more private and secure email provider is a worthwhile thing to use, as much as anything like it can exist.








  • It’s kind of a shame that the pistol anarchists weren’t really a faction.

    All the groups the game marks as ‘official’ factions are all pretty horrible and I’d rather see a london without any of them.

    It does make sense though, the anarchists just like they would be in real life are concerned with looking after their own sector and are wise enough to realise than going outside of that would stretch them too thin.

    Still, it would be nice to work with perhaps a coallition/federation of anarchist groups who don’t want to control but genuinely improve london which all of the existing groups only want to do through control.

    I’d really like an alternative to outright violence for revenge or control in these games. Only using it as a last resort or like a scalpel rather than an army of guns.


  • And this is why commercial social media and the overarching idea that violence is a good way to solve most problems are both bad ideas.

    It says something that folks reach for that instead of learning how to be calm about such things and tend to be supported for such behaviour instead of told it’s not a good idea, even worse that they never take such things down once posted, often.

    All part of the patriarchal, oversharing that the internet loves.

    “Be happy, be horny, be bursting with rage, we’ve got a million different ways to engage”. -Bo Burnham