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Cake day: October 3rd, 2023

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  • I think the point you might be missing from the OP, is that the person in question doesn’t actually possess this knowledge or skill, but instead of being humble and admitting the gaps in their knowledge, perhaps asking a question or two when they don’t understand, they just plow ahead.

    I know people like this. It’s not malicious I don’t think, maybe it’s more of a defense mechanism? They don’t want to look uninformed, so they try to fill the gaps in their knowledge with assumptions. Maybe they’re right a decent amount of the time, or close enough to fool people who aren’t knowledgeable on the subject. But people who are knowledgeable, will recognize what they’re doing, and the lack of humility comes across as arrogance, even though that may not strictly be the case.

    It’s normal to know a lot of stuff and like a wide variety of things. But you need to be humble when you don’t know something.

    When I don’t know something for sure, I like to say “I think it’s this way, but I could be wrong.” Or something like that. Or heck, if someone else has the knowledge and skills I don’t, I’m right up there asking questions, I want to learn. Maybe I’ll try to impress them with what little I do know on the subject by commenting or asking questions in a way that shows I understand what they’re talking about, because we all want to have self worth. But faking it isn’t cool, and can be harmful, or just annoying.





  • Bidet crew checking in.

    Mines got hot water. I don’t mean that it’s got a pipe for hot water, and you have to wait forever for it to warm up. I mean it’s got a water heater built in. And a heated seat. And a hot air blower… dryer? Butt hair dryer? It’s nice, especially in the winter.

    Clean your butts, people






  • I’d rather not disclose my age on this account, but, let’s just say we’re not newly married.

    I will admit my statement about location sharing only being a problem if you’ve already got problems was a bit too binary. The issue is more nuanced.

    I see you’re focusing on the cheating aspect, which to your credit is what the OP is all about. But from our perspective, that’s not even an issue or a use case for the technology. We have full trust in each other. The technology is simply useful for other reasons.

    Did she make it to work in the snowstorm or rainstorm?

    Huh she’s usually home by now, is she unconscious in a ditch or just stopped at the store?

    Dinner is almost ready, I just need to put this in the oven so it’s ready to come out the second she walks in the door, let me make sure she’s actually on her way home. Oh, she must have gotten held up at work, I’ll wait a few more minutes.

    Stuff like that. Yeah there’s other ways of solving those problems, and that’s fine too, we just prefer the convenience.

    We don’t share locations because we don’t trust each other, we share because it’s convenient. I guess you could say we trust each other not to go crazy with it 🤷‍♂️

    We have married friends who won’t share with each other, and that’s fine too.

    I’ll retract my earlier statement. Location sharing is a sensitive subject, with lots of facets. Sharing or not is a personal choice. And while there can be practical benefits, I think most people would agree that using it for cheating prevention is… Unhealthy.










  • Biscuits and gravy.

    My friends and I try to get together once every year in a big Airbnb, where we basically just hang out all weekend or a most of a week if we can. We all take turns cooking meals for everyone. Only breakfast and dinner, lunch is a free for all. I always get breakfast for day one. It’s always biscuits and gravy.

    The biscuits come from a can, they were put there by a man, in a factory downtown.

    But the gravy is homemade. Use a giant pot, put a few pounds of spicy ground sausage in the bottom and brown it up. Leave the grease in, lower the heat, add an amount of flour and stir it in for a few minutes to cook it and make a sort of roux. Then slowly add almost a gallon of whole milk, depending on how much sausage and therefore flour you used.

    Stir it very often, gently scrape the bottom, but not aggressively, because you likely burned a little flour on there during the roux phase, too much meat to handle, I haven’t solved this yet. But it’ll be ok.

    Once it’s good and hot, almost simmering, kill the heat, let it cool a minute or two, then serve on the biscuits. The consistency should be somewhat thick, like, well, thick gravy. Not watery. When it gets cold in the fridge, you can scoop it out and it holds its shape.

    It’s so unhealthy, but people love it. It makes a great breakfast for 10-15 people. Sometimes I’ll do a big pan of eggs simultaneously to go with it. There’s always leftovers of the gravy, but it goes on anything and reheats easily, so it gets eaten over the next few days when random people are randomly hungry. It never gets thrown out.

    I’ve tried offering to make other dishes, do dinner instead, or do a different breakfast food. But everyone always begs for the biscuits and gravy. So I oblige.

    We do usually end up with a second meal, depending on how many people can make it, so I’ll help my wife with whatever she decides to make for dinner.