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Cake day: July 16th, 2023

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  • It’s generally legal in the US, with some exceptions (judges holding court, maybe ship captains?), and as an American, it’s a little hard to wrap my head around the laws in Germany. I live here, so I just don’t say rude things to strangers, but what is an insult?

    Some people are ugly or fat or bald or stupid, all of which I would consider insults. Can the truth be an insult? What if I did fuck that dude’s mom last night, would it be an insult to tell him? I’ve seen dutzen (use of the informal “you”) be considered an insult, and I just don’t understand how. I understand how it can offend someone, but the word I use for the people I love best in the world is objectively not an insult.

    If insulting is subjective, can lizzo (or an equally body positive person) get away with calling someone fat?

    Above all, how is saying “it is my sincere opinion that” before the insult a real defense?


















  • I sometimes have medium length nails (3-5 mm past the fingertip), though I tend to just grow my own out, and I do it entirely for myself. I have a bunch of different kinds of nail polish and stencils for making cool patterns and it satisfies my inner elementary school librarian urge to dress up for even very minor holidays.

    People have come up to me and told me that my nails are too long for them to find attractive, which is a bizarre non sequitur imo. I don’t know why the assumption is that any self-decoration is intended as a sexual signal: my ideal nail-based interaction is that a little kid asks about them and I get to tell them about Arbor Day or national soup day or something.

    Sometimes they make life more difficult, and then I either find workarounds (opening pull tabs with a spoon, for example) or cut them, depending on how much time I have and how much I like my current nails.

    I get that they’re not for everyone, but I like them, so I wear them. It’s okay if others don’t like them, they don’t have to wear them.