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  • whodatdair@lemm.eeto196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneYou are valid rule
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    11 months ago

    Yah this is more the sexuality side of it, but I think anyone who id’s as lgbtq+ can probably relate at least a little. I bet even asexual folks have felt relieved by not feeling guilty for not being attracted to people.

    I took it as a “I’ve finally become comfortable with the thing about me that society beat me into internalizing as wrong, fuck yeah” moment.

    I love recognizing these similarities in our experiences - solidarity amongst queers is good! Apes together strong 🦧🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈💜














  • whodatdair@lemm.eeto196@lemmy.blahaj.zonelong shot rule
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    1 year ago

    Yeah I can understand that - sometimes the lows can feel super low, but they wouldn’t feel so low if there weren’t highs to compare them to. 😉

    I know I’m giving a lot of unsolicited advice here, sorry! I have one more piece though - imho don’t focus on the actual act of finding a partner so hard. I think what has worked best for me was being open to relationships while working on myself. Fuckloads of therapy and putting effort into figuring out and dealing with all the twisted bullshit inside my own subconscious really made being in and keeping relationships less difficult. Finding a therapist you jive with is a godsend for that, and very worth the effort.

    Also. For the record, it’s not abnormal to go through a bunch of relationships before you find the right person. Don’t feel alone in that, you aren’t.

    You sound like a strong person, I think you have more of a chance than you give yourself credit for. Joo kan do eet! 😁


  • whodatdair@lemm.eeto196@lemmy.blahaj.zonelong shot rule
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    1 year ago

    Aw I sorry gurl, that’s fuckin rough.

    Remember that there are tons of people who have survived terrible things and gone on to live happy lives. Humans are more resilient than we give ourselves credit for, I think. I don’t know you but I bet you’ve made it through some shit and survived, and nobody is ever beyond healing. ❤️‍🩹

    Don’t give up, you always have a chance at happiness if you can work your way through the darkness. Please don’t end your life, one of the best things I ever did was decide not to go through with it - I’d have missed out on the happiest parts of my life so far if I had let myself give in.

    Also, for the record nobody is stuck with anybody for ever. I have a friend who went no contact with his family and he’s fine.


  • whodatdair@lemm.eeto196@lemmy.blahaj.zonelong shot rule
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    1 year ago

    Hello Ashley! Sorry you’re feeling down, it seems that when it rains it pours sometimes, eh?

    Just remember that it’ll pass. I always try to remember other things I’ve overcome when I’m feeling beat by a current ordeal, reminds you that you’ll get through whatever this is, too.

    Anything you wanna talk about? :)


  • On touch centric UIs, it makes me absolutely insane when people have a button or something I might want to tap below a thing that has to be loaded and can be variable size, so I go for the button that does what I want and between my decision to touch it and my finger moving, the thing loads and I tap it instead.

    Fuckin stop it. Make the thing that loads a static size or put the button above it. If your buttons jump all over the page after you initially display them, I hate you.