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TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zoneM to 196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish · 3 days ago

[CW: toxic DMs] I'm so graterule for the fediverse

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[CW: toxic DMs] I'm so graterule for the fediverse

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TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zoneM to 196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish · 3 days ago
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  • the_crotch@sh.itjust.works
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    How do I get you to send dog pictures without sexually harassing you?

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    Hold on, there. You’re telling me there are other people, on the internet, sending you messages, personally, not as part of a mailing list, just sending you messages? Is that a thing? Is that even legal?

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    Wouldn’t the average Lemmy DM be the “Fediverse Chick” that was getting spammed since that’s likely the only DM most people have ever received?

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      I wonder how her studies are going.

    • burntbacon@discuss.tchncs.de
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      Huh. I actually haven’t seen any mention of that since the community for reporting it / sympathizing/fantasizing about it shut down. Are people still getting them?

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        deleted by creator

      • JackbyDev@programming.dev
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        I may have gotten one or two after that but not many. And not for a few weeks. Maybe a few months now.

    • TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPM
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      there is far more spam than a single obvious fediverse chick on reddit

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    What is even the context of the first one? Admitting to being a woman on the internet?

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      being into horny talk with others, but not into cnc (many dudes have no chill)

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        Can’t even be cnc with a cold open like that, that’s forgetting the first c!

        • TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPM
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          Yup. Reddit horny dudes are infamously terrible at understanding consent.

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        just looked up consent nonconsent, makes sense.

        roleplaying aside, the guy could at least be creative with it. they just asked for your info and called you a slave, give me some depth to the performance smh

        edit: forgot the context

  • HEXN3T@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    These are both pretty good convos not gonna lie

    • TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPM
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      She’s not into it in the first one. The aggression was unsolicited.

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  • festnt@sh.itjust.works
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    i was confused at first cause i thought you meant DM as in dungeon master

    • Björn Tantau@swg-empire.de
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      Looks like the Reddit guy thought so as well.

  • Turret3857@infosec.pub
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    :3

    • PyroNeurosis@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      <]:3

  • GluWu@lemm.ee
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    Unsolicited silliness, how dare they

    :3

    • TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPM
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      :3

      • Karl@programming.dev
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        :3

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    Where are all these dms you speak of?

    • outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      You haven’t met nicole™ yet?

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        But you can call her the fediverse chick!

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    :3

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      :3

      • don@lemm.ee
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        :3

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          :3

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            :3

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              :3

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                :3

                • erotador@lemmy.blahaj.zoneM
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                  :3

  • Kowowow@lemmy.ca
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    reddit and lemmy have dm’s?

    • rustyfish@lemmy.world
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      Only found out on reddit when I got my first death threat. The first of many ❤️

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        Yeah, I basically only ever got hate messages on Reddit. The sole exception was when I posted about how easy it was to emulate older systems, and someone DM’ed me to politely ask for some setup tips for his grandson.

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  • moosetwin@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    shitpost DMs incoming

    I would send one myself but I’m too afraid of it being interpreted at face value

    what I would have sent

    either that gif or the fuck you baltimore fake ad

  • Truscape@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    I will be giving support and kind greetings to those I interact with and shall not be stopped! :3

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    I have no idea how DMs work here on mobile, and at this point I’m afraid to ask.

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      You click on a username, and somewhere there’s a link to send a message. I use Voyager, so it’s hidden under the three dots.

      Just sent you one :-)

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