Users from 4chan claim to have discovered an exposed database hosted on Google’s mobile app development platform, Firebase, belonging to the newly popular women’s dating safety app Tea. Users say they are rifling through peoples’ personal data and selfies uploaded to the app, and then posting that data online, according to screenshots, 4chan posts, and code reviewed by 404 Media.
“gossip” is for safety. It’s often information that men don’t want shared so it’s painted like it’s bad. Claiming women shouldn’t gossip is just more misogyny.
There is some of that happening, like when women get together and discuss how they’re being treated it’s “gossip” and implied as immoral.
I think some men might read what you’ve said and think you are denying any toxic gossip exists, it’s important to have nuance and not alienate men who otherwise would be allies, but I think overall your point is well taken.