I had to quit alcohol because of my husband’s issue with it. It was no problem for me to let it go, though I did miss it for a time.
Same thing, I’m happy as hell when I’ve had a few glasses of wine, it’s fun to socialize. But what really drove home to me the benefit of quitting, was even though I was happy and funny to be around, there were still moments where alcohol put me outside my own decision making.
there were still moments where alcohol put me outside my own decision making.
That’s not something I’ve ever really had an issue with personally. I’ve never done anything while intoxicated that I regretted later other than maybe having too much and getting sick. Even when I’ve gone way overboard I have never gotten any complaints from anyone about how I behaved. Not that I’m saying that’s the case for everyone, I know people who get mean or emotional when they drink and they should avoid it. It just doesn’t happen to me. I just get more happy and outgoing and it kills a lot of my social anxiety.
No I am the same as you when it comes to drinking.
I guess I don’t know how to explain it.
Maybe, something simple, like over eating sweets at a party because I was buzzing. I only realized it after I stopped drinking, how much it really was the alcohol making the decisions for me, even if that decision is to make a joke or share a story, I’d otherwise not speak without alcohol.
I hear you and I’m not advocating all people shouldn’t drink anytime. Just personally, I didn’t realize how much alcohol influenced my decision making until after I gave it up voluntarily, about a year or so into sobriety.
Reaction times are slower for example, so to drink is really deciding to give up control of yourself for a time. Probably why it makes socializing easier.
I think I get what you’re saying. I guess In my case I don’t think of it as making decisions for me so much as stopping my anxiety from preventing me doing things I would otherwise like to do. Like overeating and things like that may come into it a bit but I still have a fairly good handle on things like that even when I’m drunk (if I’m getting drunk it’s already a forgone conclusion that my diet is shot that day). I never really lose control of myself or come around the next day thinking “Oh man, that thing I did last night wasn’t me”. I’m not taking that for granted and being reckless by like driving or operating power tools or anything but so far no major issues have arose from it like I’ve seen happen to others.
I had to quit alcohol because of my husband’s issue with it. It was no problem for me to let it go, though I did miss it for a time.
Same thing, I’m happy as hell when I’ve had a few glasses of wine, it’s fun to socialize. But what really drove home to me the benefit of quitting, was even though I was happy and funny to be around, there were still moments where alcohol put me outside my own decision making.
I didn’t like that.
That’s not something I’ve ever really had an issue with personally. I’ve never done anything while intoxicated that I regretted later other than maybe having too much and getting sick. Even when I’ve gone way overboard I have never gotten any complaints from anyone about how I behaved. Not that I’m saying that’s the case for everyone, I know people who get mean or emotional when they drink and they should avoid it. It just doesn’t happen to me. I just get more happy and outgoing and it kills a lot of my social anxiety.
No I am the same as you when it comes to drinking.
I guess I don’t know how to explain it.
Maybe, something simple, like over eating sweets at a party because I was buzzing. I only realized it after I stopped drinking, how much it really was the alcohol making the decisions for me, even if that decision is to make a joke or share a story, I’d otherwise not speak without alcohol.
I hear you and I’m not advocating all people shouldn’t drink anytime. Just personally, I didn’t realize how much alcohol influenced my decision making until after I gave it up voluntarily, about a year or so into sobriety.
Reaction times are slower for example, so to drink is really deciding to give up control of yourself for a time. Probably why it makes socializing easier.
I think I get what you’re saying. I guess In my case I don’t think of it as making decisions for me so much as stopping my anxiety from preventing me doing things I would otherwise like to do. Like overeating and things like that may come into it a bit but I still have a fairly good handle on things like that even when I’m drunk (if I’m getting drunk it’s already a forgone conclusion that my diet is shot that day). I never really lose control of myself or come around the next day thinking “Oh man, that thing I did last night wasn’t me”. I’m not taking that for granted and being reckless by like driving or operating power tools or anything but so far no major issues have arose from it like I’ve seen happen to others.