I chose to go to the other side of the continent and back, with my faithful furball by my side. (Took nearly a year) Now, we’re putting down roots in a far better city, thousands of miles and innumerable degrees of separation from her crazy ass. Winning. Tough AF, but finally winning, I think. 🥲
Youll be better off going to the gym for yourself and not revenge or whatever
I went for myself, but I do channel a lot of anger I built up into working out, because that’s where I can vent it all.
Going to the gym in order to get shredded so that you can show off to your ex just isn’t worth it. So I agree you need to go for yourself. The looks are just a cherry on top.
I feel like you’re kind of teeing people up too much with this question like why does it need to be toxic
Firstly it’s something I’ve experienced recently (having to end a toxic relationship) and secondly I’m intrigued on how many people choose to go to the gym to better themself after a similar event.
And I feel like it can be motivation for some people reading stuff like this because it shows that they aren’t alone and that other people are in similar positions, and I suppose it shows people what experiences others has had and will maybe help them choose to go to the gym or something other than that.
Yes. It was unrelated to the relationship though. The result is that most of my random aches and pains are gone. I can do a lot of strength related things I used to have to ask for help with, and I look great when I take my shirt off.
Wasn’t my choice to end it, but working out did help, the physical discomfort dulls the emotional pain. Although I did it at home rather than going to a gym. Years later I’m still more in shape than I was before that episode.
I’m happy for you, I’m glad working out made you feel better
I did! The outcome has been that I go to the gym now lol, these days about 2-4 times a month depending on how I feel. I was trying to chase the dragon of a tight tummy for the first six months and was regularly going 3 times a week, but slowed down once I realized that my bloating probably has other causes.
I did not hit the gym, but after dumping her I suddenly had no problems in life and found the energy to start jogging, lifting weights, doing bodyweight fitness exercises, cooking, reading, professional self-improvement, and now I have a new higher-paying career and a much better social life with my friends. Only thing that hasn’t yet panned out is finding a new girlfriend, but I’m optimistic that could happen soon too. 🤞
Well, you sound like a catch!
