I gotta say this isn’t my experience at all. It’s any gender being any kind of welcoming to new people. That includes me in all positions (being the “haven’t known him for long enough” and “we found him along the way”, and also being the one who does both of those things). If anything my experience has been that women have been more welcoming to new people, of course within reason and depending on the situation. But it’s not at all heavily towards one side or the other, people are people and situational logic plays a larger part than anything else.
Yeah; this one’s been my experience, as well.
I went on a canyon drive one time. We started with 7 cars, when we got to the end of our route, we had 8. Hopped right out of his car and stood around in the circle with the rest of us, didn’t even register for a second that it was just some random guy. He thought it looked fun so he kept up with us. Cool dude.
Lemmy: your daily dose of misogyny
Not really misogynistic is it, the first is not a bad thing
The meme format of “Wokaj vs. Chad” implicitly puts the Chad over the Wojak
Sounds like you’re doing a lot of projection there bud
Hmmm, wonder why you’re getting defensive around general accusations of misogyny not particularly directed towards you
lol and what is it that you are even supposedly projecting in the first place. dude was projecting projection, it’s absurd
Just a thought-terminating cliche, very popular. It’s one of the words used to shutdown brain function when you read something that shakes cognitive dissonance.
I wish this was my experience. I’ve seen that women look after each other a lot better generally.
That’s been my experience too. Men are very standoffish or happy to be alone, women see another woman alone and want to adopt them like a stray kitten.
You guys need a dog catcher in your group. This is one of those archetypes that gets over looked because it feels like something that’s part of several other archetypes, but it really makes a difference to have it stand alone.
It’s in the name, he catches strays. This is the guy that pulls groups together from separate circles, introduces new guys to the group, or occasionally plays match maker. He’s probably running your Discord server or keeps putting you in group chats, he’s the one that does the logistics planning when it comes to more complicated outings Lee week long trips and bachelor parties. In public outings he probably makes friends with staff or other queue waiters. He’s probably the guy that stages interventions but out of genuine care.
There are others that can fill the role, golden retriever boys are good at the finding people but too dumb to coordinate. Fearless leaders can attract crowds but normally don’t have the personal touch to keep anyone new long term. Sheep dogs are great at keeping new boys in the group but they don’t invite new people. More often than not, the dog catcher will be playing another role in the group because their current services aren’t being utilized so he’s either not invested in it or your group is one of his secondary groups. If you’re scrolling through your contacts trying to figure out who I’m taking about, if you’re the forever DM, or if your boys keep saying “whatever happened to X” and you’re the guy that reminds them, you’re probably the dog catcher.
I’ve never heard these words used to describe social dynamics, but it all makes perfect sense. And TIL I’m a golden retriever.
