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Throwaway@lemm.ee to Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world · 2 years ago

How often do you write a reply but don't post it because the argument just isn't worth it?

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How often do you write a reply but don't post it because the argument just isn't worth it?

Throwaway@lemm.ee to Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world · 2 years ago
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  • wia@lemmy.ca
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    Probably 95% of the time, honestly.

    Almost every time, even when it’s something I’m a SME about. I just don’t want to play the popularity/karma game and deal with nonsense.

    • Zoolander@lemmy.world
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      I used to think that Reddit was the worst about that but Lemmy has topped it. Reddit would be filled with comments from people that were off about something small that I’m a SME about. People on Lemmy like to engage in entire comment chains that are just flat out wrong that they’re confidently incorrect about.

      • XbSuper@lemmy.world
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        And you get shouted down for trying to correct them. I generally prefer to just lurk here, discussion is near impossible.

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    • JetpackJackson@feddit.de
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      What is an SME?

      • prongs@lemm.ee
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        Subject matter expert

        • JetpackJackson@feddit.de
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          Ah ok, thanks! Figured it had something to do with “expert” but I couldn’t figure it out.

        • SocialEngineer56@notdigg.com
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          Based on comments above - I’m confident SME stands for “Seinfeld Management Explainer”

      • Clanket@lemmy.world
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  • breakingcups@lemmy.world
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    Consider that your target audience for this question might inherently have difficulty answering this.

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    50% of th…ah, fuck it.

  • MrMamiya@feddit.de
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    I’ve been on the internet long enough I can have the entire argument with myself at this point. I’ve taken to just posting what I want and forgetting about it. They can’t all be bangers.

    • funnystuff97@lemmy.world
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      I disagree.

      • BertramDitore@lemmy.world
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        I AGREE!

        • watson@sopuli.xyz
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          I could go either way

        • krey@sh.itjust.works
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          “OP is literally hitler!”

  • infinipurple@lemm.ee
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    I almost didn’t even post this response.

  • themeatbridge@lemmy.world
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    I just deleted four paragraphs about Batman and the ethics of murder because I realized I didn’t actually want to argue with anyone, I was just soapboxing. And it would definitely start an argument.

    • Throwaway@lemm.eeOP
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      You know, we could use a soapbox community. No replies, just text posts. I could definitely post a couple of my own.

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        You would surely get meta posters directly or indirectly addressing other posts lol

        • themeatbridge@lemmy.world
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          Today on my soapbox, all the reasons IronKrill is wrong about what they said yesterday. I will ignore all questions ir rebuttals.

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      That’s when you post anyway and add in “I will not be taking any questions.”

      Stick to your word, ignore replies if you don’t even care what other people have to say in response.

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      Fuck it, soap box anyway. It’s a neat way to catalog your thoughts and opinions, like having a journal or blog where the subjects are informed by what you’re commenting on.

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    Would have been great if no one replied to this post.

    • El Barto@lemmy.world
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      [Comment deleted by poster]

      • brb@sh.itjust.works
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        [Comment deleted by poster]

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  • Smurfe@lemmy.world
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    All. The. Fucking. Time.

  • RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world
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    3 out of 4 times?

    Find myself reiterating something that was already said. Arguing a point nobody cares about. Entering a discussion that I know will not go my way regardless of what info I provide, because even Lemmy has a Hive Mind sometimes and doesn’t like dissent. Realizing half way through writing it that I don’t really know enough about the subject and should just shut up. Or maybe I just think my comment won’t offer anything that contributes to the discussion.

  • Karyoplasma@discuss.tchncs.de
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    I often type and then realize I’m not really adding anything to the discussion. Then I just discard it.

    • samus12345@lemmy.world
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      Other times I realize I’m not adding anything and hit Reply anyway. Like right now!

    • El Barto@lemmy.world
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      I can mindlessly reply no problem. But in the few times I’ve stopped myself from replying, I’ve asked, “will this post and potential replies bring me any value, be it educational, entertaining or similar?”

    • anzich@feddit.de
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      That’s me when I’m tipsy and writing a cynic comment!

    • Hadriscus@lemm.ee
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      yea, same

  • BertramDitore@lemmy.world
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    So. Often. At least twice a day.

  • sep@lemmy.world
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    I post about 1/20th of the replies i write.

    • Weirdfish@lemmy.world
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      This sounds about right. I have an emotional response to something, feel I have something to add, and start banging out a wall of text.

      Then I reread it for errors before I post and just think “nobody needs to see this” and delete it.

    • umulu@lemmy.world
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      2nd

      • CraigeryTheKid@lemm.ee
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        Same, I probably delete 80% of replies I start.

  • FelixMortane@lemmy.ca
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    Less here, way more often on Reddit. Here is nicer to have conversations.

    • TheGreenGolem@lemm.ee
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      No, it’s not!!!

      • Weirdfish@lemmy.world
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        I came here for an argument! Oh sorry, this is abuse.

  • spittingimage@lemmy.world
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    A lot. I start typing then stop, physically remove my hands from the keyboard and remind myself that A) arguing on the internet never convinced anyone of anything and B) it will make me feel worse, not better.

    • Hadriscus@lemm.ee
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      Sometimes it does. But look, I’m not here to convince you…

  • Joanie Parker@lemmy.world
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    You’re lucky I’m even responding to this. That’s how often.

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