She spent 5 years without attempting to make headway on something that is disgusting, makes the area smell disgusting, makes her smell disgusting, will stain skin and teeth, harms her and reduces her life span, harms her partner and reduces his lifepan when he DOESN’T CONSENT, and harms their relationship. She is UNQUESTIONABLY an asshole. You do not have a leg to stand on. Your arguments are just “Oh but she might need it to cope.”
I don’t care.
She is an addict and is refusing to budge. As someone who went from a pack every two days to nothing, and as someone who went from drinking half a pint of vodka everyday to nothing, I can categorically say she is an asshole. If she is outright refusing, as OP said, then she is in the wrong. She is choosing addiction over her relationship. She’s not just an asshole. She’s a horrible person and her love for OP is genuinely questionable.
You do not get a pass from being an asshole simply because you have an addiction. At first? Sure. But she has been doing it for 5 YEARS and after being talked to about it she’s doing nothing. She no longer gets the umbrella of empathy for her addiction and she should be called out for it. She’s being selfish and putting her own wants over the health of everyone involved.
This isn’t a very nice comment. This user is calling the other person’s wife a horrible person and questioning her love for him. This is pretty rude and out of place. He is adamant on arguing that someone’s wife is horrible and an asshole. He is being completely dismissive of people with mental health problems statistically having trouble with cigarettes and is putting them all under a judgmental blanket. Enormous amount of negativity here. He is not being nice.
ill remove any comments that involve two or more commenters being rude to one another, im not going to remove comments where somebody expresses their opinion on somebody who isnt even here.
They’re being bigoted and you know it. The world needs more compassion, not less. My comment you deleted was in response to not only this extreme lack of compassion but the encouragement that nobody, including the woman’s husband, should be compassionate to people like that woman. Somehow my comment was worse. Ok, I guess.
the thing is the original commenter was asking for feedback in a “am i the asshole” format, in that case its perfectly acceptable to make judgements on character because it was asked for. however you dont get to call other commenters assholes because you disagree with them.
Next you’ll be telling depressed people to just brighten up and anxious overeaters to just eat less. In your childish view of the world where either one person is an asshole or the other must be, with zero nuance, it wouldn’t surprise me.
She’s not an asshole. Maybe they’re not a good match. But just because he tells her she needs to quit something that’s notoriously difficult to quit and she doesn’t do it, it doesn’t mean she’s an asshole.
If you want me to go away try to not engaging in further discussion lmao.
She spent 5 years without attempting to make headway on something that is disgusting, makes the area smell disgusting, makes her smell disgusting, will stain skin and teeth, harms her and reduces her life span, harms her partner and reduces his lifepan when he DOESN’T CONSENT, and harms their relationship. She is UNQUESTIONABLY an asshole. You do not have a leg to stand on. Your arguments are just “Oh but she might need it to cope.”
I don’t care.
She is an addict and is refusing to budge. As someone who went from a pack every two days to nothing, and as someone who went from drinking half a pint of vodka everyday to nothing, I can categorically say she is an asshole. If she is outright refusing, as OP said, then she is in the wrong. She is choosing addiction over her relationship. She’s not just an asshole. She’s a horrible person and her love for OP is genuinely questionable.
You do not get a pass from being an asshole simply because you have an addiction. At first? Sure. But she has been doing it for 5 YEARS and after being talked to about it she’s doing nothing. She no longer gets the umbrella of empathy for her addiction and she should be called out for it. She’s being selfish and putting her own wants over the health of everyone involved.
@erotador@lemmy.blahaj.zone
This isn’t a very nice comment. This user is calling the other person’s wife a horrible person and questioning her love for him. This is pretty rude and out of place. He is adamant on arguing that someone’s wife is horrible and an asshole. He is being completely dismissive of people with mental health problems statistically having trouble with cigarettes and is putting them all under a judgmental blanket. Enormous amount of negativity here. He is not being nice.
ill remove any comments that involve two or more commenters being rude to one another, im not going to remove comments where somebody expresses their opinion on somebody who isnt even here.
They’re being bigoted and you know it. The world needs more compassion, not less. My comment you deleted was in response to not only this extreme lack of compassion but the encouragement that nobody, including the woman’s husband, should be compassionate to people like that woman. Somehow my comment was worse. Ok, I guess.
the thing is the original commenter was asking for feedback in a “am i the asshole” format, in that case its perfectly acceptable to make judgements on character because it was asked for. however you dont get to call other commenters assholes because you disagree with them.
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Your submission in “no smoking rule” was removed for be nice -erotador.
What? Ok. Can you delete the other guy’s aggressive comments too, then? Especially the one where he calls me pathetic? Thanks.
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Next you’ll be telling depressed people to just brighten up and anxious overeaters to just eat less. In your childish view of the world where either one person is an asshole or the other must be, with zero nuance, it wouldn’t surprise me.
She’s not an asshole. Maybe they’re not a good match. But just because he tells her she needs to quit something that’s notoriously difficult to quit and she doesn’t do it, it doesn’t mean she’s an asshole.
If you want me to go away try to not engaging in further discussion lmao.
Are you 12?
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Some people cope by smoking, others are chronically online sad assholes. Choose your vice, I suppose.