• Nangijala@feddit.dk
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    7 hours ago

    There certainly are some side effects to taking birth control pills and depending on the person they may react differently or not react at all.

    In my case I got some heart issues which made sense because it was in my family history so I just switched to the mini pill which I have taken ever since. Fucking love it. I never bleed and I don’t get pms symptoms. Just get to live a normal life without all the gross stuff.

    But with all that said, I too believe that the anti birth control wave online was propaganda. It just came about a little too conveniently after the US made abortion illegal. It is just a tad bit too coincidental.

    I followed it a bit when it began getting traction some years ago and I felt very confused and disturbed by the narrative being passed around about birth control. It felt like fear mongering and I just felt confused by the symptoms women were reporting online. I have literally never in my life heard of any woman talk about how birth control made her depressed and I have after all been in the game for awhile and known many women who have been in it too. That was the first thing that made me lift an eyebrow.

    Then I watched a video where some expert was talking about how birth control pills make women less attracted to manly men and more attracted to feminine men. I forget the name of the expert but I do remember that she was associated with conservatives and had their interests in mind. I thought it was very funny that she was essentially blaming birth control for women being attracted to unacceptable men.

    And honestly, I have a question I would like to ask that expert, because when I was a teen girl, before I got on birth control, I was VERY attracted to scrawny men with long hair and eyeliner. Manly men did nothing for me.

    I got on birthcontrol at 19 and wanna know what happened to my taste in men over the years? It evolved to being more focused on men with more masculine traits. Instead of scrawny I began finding men who were filled out, more attractive. I began thinking that beards were hot when I had always found them kinda gross. I thought that men who looked a bit gruff went from being gross and boring to being cute and attractive.

    I’m pushing 40 now and my spouse is the exact opposite of what I was attracted to as a teen. There is nothing feminine about him.

    But I think I know what that expert meant. She’s blaming women choosing partners who treats them as their equals on birth control. Because here is the thing about my man: he may not look feminine nor does he particularly act feminine, but he’s also not a brute who thinks he’s the head of the household and I am his servant. He doesn’t act like he is better than me nor does he feel entitled to me at all. He cooks and cleans. He is very good with emotional talks and being attentive and empathetic. He is very encouraging and has basically no control issues besides claiming the kitchen as his domain. That’s mostly I might be one of the worst cooks in the world.

    Women want men who are emotionally intelligent, who are their equals and who are good partners. They don’t want a slave master. And I think that is why American conservatives are trying to blame birth control. If you can convince women that they are taking a pill that mind controls them into wanting something unnatural and wrong, then they may be more compliant than of you flat out blame them for having higher standards for their men than their mothers and grandmothers had.

    There are definitely side effects to taking birth control but there are also side effects to taking pain killers.

    I have no doubt the anti birth control wave is orcastrated by the very people who are trying to take away women’s autonomy in the US and beyond. I see the anti abortion movement starting to take root in Europe too and I fucking hate it.