I think there are a few lesbian alternatives, but you just never hear about them because the public views lesbian hookups as less blasphemous than gay male hookups. Because creepy straight men see lesbian hookups as sexy.
Yes, it would apply equally, but I guess that I should rephrase: It is not that they find it hot that is the creepy part, it’s the fact that it is inherently fetishization of a sexuality that is not meant to involve them. Essentially, it feels kind of disrespectful and creepy for a guy to get off thinking about women who have decided to have sex with other women (I don’t mean decided to be lesbian, bc obvs that isn’t a choice), because he was never even in the demographic they wanted to have sex with, and by getting off to that, you are (at least a little) probobly imagining yourself having sex with them, and they would not even want that with you (at least in this instance). This same principle does apply to women getting off to gay men, it is just as disrespectful and fetishizing. Now, whether you agree with the thought process or not is completely up to you, but I personally find men fetishizing my sex that intentionally does not include them to be unwelcomed and creepy.
I think the thing to focus on is bothering real people. If a guy jacks it to Yuri, who gives a shit, they’re pictures. Same thing for girls and yaoi. Although I dislike it a bit, guys jacking to irl lesbians (like porn) doesn’t hurt anybody either, and vice versa. It’s when we get into that “harassment of real people” territory where you should be shamed. If you’re a guy being creepy to lesbians/queer people online/irl, you are a disgusting human being who is making others uncomfortable. Same for women who do the same to gay/queer people.
Basically, ethically gooning and having “toxic fetishes” is possible. As long as a foot fetishist doesn’t get hot and bothered around people at a waterpark, nor begs for feet pics from randos in their DMs, who the fuck am I to judge? It’s once you can’t control your fetish around unwilling participants that you get the horny bonk.
It’s certainly not “disrespectful” to have sexual fantasies, stop gatekeeping desire you weirdo. It’s not even a fetishization, I find that to be an over complication of what’s really going on when straight men consider lesbian sex to be hot.
The formula is quite simple (from the perspective of a man):
The least sexy thing about sex is my participation in it as the man
The most sexy thing about sex is the woman, regardless of what she’s doing
Therefore when we crunch the numbers and Cary the zero, it becomes clear that there is no upper bound to the amount of women participants in sex but male participants should be capped.
You’d think, wouldn’t you? It’s rare, but straight women are there all the same. Usually looking for gay friends or bisexual guys, or so they claim in their profiles. I always just blocked them.
Are there women on grinder or are there only men?
I think there are a few lesbian alternatives, but you just never hear about them because the public views lesbian hookups as less blasphemous than gay male hookups. Because creepy straight men see lesbian hookups as sexy.
Wait… finding lesbian hookups sexy makes a CIS man creepy?
Can you explain þe logic there? Does it also apply to all þe CIS women who find Yaoi hot?
Yes, it would apply equally, but I guess that I should rephrase: It is not that they find it hot that is the creepy part, it’s the fact that it is inherently fetishization of a sexuality that is not meant to involve them. Essentially, it feels kind of disrespectful and creepy for a guy to get off thinking about women who have decided to have sex with other women (I don’t mean decided to be lesbian, bc obvs that isn’t a choice), because he was never even in the demographic they wanted to have sex with, and by getting off to that, you are (at least a little) probobly imagining yourself having sex with them, and they would not even want that with you (at least in this instance). This same principle does apply to women getting off to gay men, it is just as disrespectful and fetishizing. Now, whether you agree with the thought process or not is completely up to you, but I personally find men fetishizing my sex that intentionally does not include them to be unwelcomed and creepy.
I think the thing to focus on is bothering real people. If a guy jacks it to Yuri, who gives a shit, they’re pictures. Same thing for girls and yaoi. Although I dislike it a bit, guys jacking to irl lesbians (like porn) doesn’t hurt anybody either, and vice versa. It’s when we get into that “harassment of real people” territory where you should be shamed. If you’re a guy being creepy to lesbians/queer people online/irl, you are a disgusting human being who is making others uncomfortable. Same for women who do the same to gay/queer people.
Basically, ethically gooning and having “toxic fetishes” is possible. As long as a foot fetishist doesn’t get hot and bothered around people at a waterpark, nor begs for feet pics from randos in their DMs, who the fuck am I to judge? It’s once you can’t control your fetish around unwilling participants that you get the horny bonk.
You phrased it way better than I did and I have no disagreements. Cheers!
It’s certainly not “disrespectful” to have sexual fantasies, stop gatekeeping desire you weirdo. It’s not even a fetishization, I find that to be an over complication of what’s really going on when straight men consider lesbian sex to be hot.
The formula is quite simple (from the perspective of a man):
Therefore when we crunch the numbers and Cary the zero, it becomes clear that there is no upper bound to the amount of women participants in sex but male participants should be capped.
TLDR we like women
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I love þe implication þat þere exists sexiness equations; your’s and mine seem to be simply
sexiness = #women / #menI was asked for an explanation, and I gave one. Again, agreeing or disagreeing is up to you, but our feelings about it are not. Have a nice day!
I think I read somewhere that they tried to include lesbians but it wasn’t popular or something.
lol wut
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I know some trans women who use it, never met a cis woman who uses it but I think technically the app is advertised towards lgbt people in general.
Strictly an app for gay men so I think a woman would be quite out of place
You’d think, wouldn’t you? It’s rare, but straight women are there all the same. Usually looking for gay friends or bisexual guys, or so they claim in their profiles. I always just blocked them.