“Use a planner!” I have a stack of them! They go unused after 10 days because ADHD.
“Just make a routine!” Great! Done! The moment it gets interrupted it becomes impossible to go back to, because ADHD 😄
“You just need discipline!” My barely-functional life is the result of already more discipline than you can muster on your best day because - you guessed it - ADHD 🙃
I have a routine that rivals a priest on Easter Sunday.
But the best written homily doesn’t undo the fact that the organist is about to start the prelude and for the life of me, I can’t figure out where those damned communion wafers have gone even though I swear I just saw them!
This sounds like me. I’ve got a spreadsheet I go through daily with sections like “morning routine,” “returning routine,” “essential chores,” “dinner routine,” etc. It’s set up to turn tasks green when I complete them so I get just enough of a dopamine hit to continue. There’s also a dedicated column that’s basically for “you’ve determined this is the optimal way to do this task after countless iterations; stop trying to rethink it and just do it.”
There’s something so comforting about learning other people have the same struggles I do. I’ve had to do the same thing regarding “optimizing” my routine, which is one of my favorite ways to procrastinate.
It’s the second point there that makes me think I’m not just autistic.
A routine? I’ve never managed to have those. What I do have is having to constantly tell myself to do something. Every. Single. Time. And if it’s interrupted for some reason? Fuck me!
Dentist is a condescending jerk about my not brushing my teeth because it is a constant struggle every morning.
“Use a planner!” I have a stack of them! They go unused after 10 days because ADHD.
“Just make a routine!” Great! Done! The moment it gets interrupted it becomes impossible to go back to, because ADHD 😄
“You just need discipline!” My barely-functional life is the result of already more discipline than you can muster on your best day because - you guessed it - ADHD 🙃
I have a routine that rivals a priest on Easter Sunday. But the best written homily doesn’t undo the fact that the organist is about to start the prelude and for the life of me, I can’t figure out where those damned communion wafers have gone even though I swear I just saw them!
100% this. I have routines mapped out so I don’t have to figure everything out again once my mind decides it’s time to let me function for a bit.
This sounds like me. I’ve got a spreadsheet I go through daily with sections like “morning routine,” “returning routine,” “essential chores,” “dinner routine,” etc. It’s set up to turn tasks green when I complete them so I get just enough of a dopamine hit to continue. There’s also a dedicated column that’s basically for “you’ve determined this is the optimal way to do this task after countless iterations; stop trying to rethink it and just do it.”
There’s something so comforting about learning other people have the same struggles I do. I’ve had to do the same thing regarding “optimizing” my routine, which is one of my favorite ways to procrastinate.
It’s the second point there that makes me think I’m not just autistic.
A routine? I’ve never managed to have those. What I do have is having to constantly tell myself to do something. Every. Single. Time. And if it’s interrupted for some reason? Fuck me!
Dentist is a condescending jerk about my not brushing my teeth because it is a constant struggle every morning.