• gravitas_deficiency@sh.itjust.works
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    7 days ago

    Hey, kink is fun as hell. The whole societal shame bullshit around anything related to sex outside of the context of procreation is fucking dumb, and I’ve more or less fully rejected that mindset at this point. We are humans; humans were designed to feel good when smashing; hence, we like to smash. And exploring fun aspects and dynamics in that context is exciting and delightful.

    Remember: “tradition” is just peer pressure from dead people.

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      6 days ago

      That’s not a kink. Sex for fun is entirely normal human.

      Sex only for impregnation on the other hand, that’s a specific fetish.

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        There’s definitely a gender dichotomy in terms of societal acceptance of sex as a form of fun. For men, it’s generally like “yeah, get some!”; for women; it’s often a lot closer to “omg you whore 😱”

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          there’s definitely a gender dichotomy that goes far back to england and the puritans who believed that basically women are inferior beings for having a sex drive (because that’s devilish), meanwhile men got a semi-pass possibly because they’re more difficult to say “no” to.

          anyways, the english church is single-handedly responsible for the divide of human culture from human nature. nowhere else in the world (and i’ve studied a lot of philosophy!) have i seen such a great divide. it’s all about the asymmetry of good and evil.

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            6 days ago

            just as a follow-up, the sad thing is, nobody could explain to me why the puritans have such a strong aversion to sex. it’s just postulated but without any proof or at least hint that would make it plausible.

            i have actually asked for this specific question here about 3 days ago, to find an answer. i was downvoted to hell, nobody even tried to elaborate (except 1 friendly muslim) and people called me “bad-faithed” for even asking such a question.

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              I think if you has asked “Why do puritans and others have such a strong aversion to sex?” you would have gotten better answers than asking your question “Prudish people, why do you hate sex?”

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              It’s because well, sex is pleasurable (and kind of dirty), but mostly, they obviously tend towards suffering, like believing in hard work and denial, and sex is very much the opposite of that.