• lightnsfw@reddthat.com
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        It’s literally not. It takes me a few hours to stop thinking about work shit and everything else I have to do and I don’t have that long at the end of the day. I didn’t say I drink every day or even every week. I wouldn’t even say I have a drinking problem. Most days I just sit around being still stressed out for an hour or so after I get all my shit done and then go to bed. You don’t know shit about me so keep your platitudes to yourself.

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          Someone doesn’t need to know you to know how self-medicating anxiety (what you’re describing) with alcohol fucks people up long term

          They did manage to be a dick about it, but yea the more someone feels like they can’t stop those thoughts, the deeper the need is for something sustainable (a practice, a hobby, a life change, a med, etc.) that can help them do that

          Even at its best, if someone sidesteps all the side effects of alcohol, it still just delays someone from learning how to master those thought patterns in themselves

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            I know how to break out of those thought patterns. The problem is, like I already said, it takes longer to do than I have time for. It’s not like there’s a switch I can flip off.

            I’m going to be fucked long term regardless of what I do anyway because the society we’ve constructed is fucked and built around continuously making everything worse.

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            That wasn’t really the point being discussed, though. It was about having time to practice healthier coping mechanisms.

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              The point being discussed is the false idea that alcohol creates relaxation for someone who lacks a setting to be able to relax without it

              It just doesn’t work that way. Top level comment is spitting truth

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              Being healthy gives you that time. Alcohol makes you tired the next day, then you come home and drink again because you feel like garbage so on and so forth. You also lose time to the extra sleep your body needs to filter the poison out.

              I’m not about to say that it’s easy. I’ve done a ton of after work drinking in my day. If you’re able, going a week or two without a drink really helps to sharpen the difference when you go back. For me that’s what put it all into perspective.

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                I’m the healthiest person I know and it’s not even close. I don’t have time because I work 9-10 hours a day, then have to exercise, feed myself, clean up, do whatever other shit needs doing, prepare for the next day, and sleep for 7-8 hours. This leaves ~1-1.5 hours to “relax”. That’s not enough time to clear my head let alone actually do something relaxing.

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                That’s never been my experience, but I’m glad it helped you in your situation.

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        Yeah, and mental illness is just people pretending to be sick, right?

        I hope you get the help you need someday.

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          Yeah, and mental illness is just people pretending to be sick, right?

          Who said anything about mental illness?

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            lol - they didn’t have to. victim blamers are all the same.

            eta: not being able to relax is a mental illness, anyway - usually anxiety of some sort. The cause can still be entirely environmental… such as a lack of time to relax.

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              Could you just explicitly say what you’re trying to say instead of this “wink, wink, nudge, nudge” nonsense?

              Why are there so many people who talk like this on Lemmy?

              Edit: Well this comment is moot now so I’ll make a separate one.

              2nd edit: Actually nevermind I don’t care enough about this lol.

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                I made a ninja edit, you might have responded before it was up:

                victim blamers are all the same.

                There it is, explicitly.