• 🐋 Color 🔱 ♀@lemm.eeEnglish
        10·
        3 个月前

        In both cases the conversations took place via texts and calls. First occasion was a friend who was being harassed and had a bunch of other not-so-great things happening in their life and they turned to me, telling me that they had the means of killing themselves right next to them. They were being harassed over an aspect of their physical appearance. I told them not to do it, because with every interaction I had with them, they were always so nice, which left an impression on me, and the opinions of anyone so vile as to harass someone for their appearance is not worth even considering. I said more than that, the conversation went on for quite a long time and then it gradually turned into more casual talk and then “see you tomorrow” at school.

        Second occasion was a friend who was going through problems with a relationship. I often ask my friends how they’re doing as kind of a habit, so this time they said they weren’t doing well, and told me about how they felt. They didn’t have a family who would listen so I was just there for them, listened to them and offered my input telling them things would get better, giving them some advice on what I’d say or do in that situation, and if they ever needed someone to talk or game with I’d always be there for them. They’re doing well now!

  • davidgro@lemmy.world
    32·
    3 个月前

    All these people posting inspirational stories and here I am with my first thought being “Finally saw the northern lights”. Got some decent pictures too.

    • Truffle@lemmy.ml
      4·
      3 个月前

      That is on ny bucket list! They look surreal and I would love to experience seeig them.

    • R...@lemmy.mlEnglish
      2·
      3 个月前

      That is a great achievement, and a good looking one as well! One i haven’t yet reached!

  • Diddlydee@feddit.ukEnglish
    32·
    3 个月前

    I self published two books and am almost ready to do a third. No interest in being a famous author or making millions, just glad to get them out of my head and to know they are just what I intended them to be.

    • Buglefingers@lemmy.world
      9·
      3 个月前

      There’s a smaller publishing company for small time authors in Florida (if the company is still around) Called witching hour publishing. Their whole schtick is to make publishing cheaper and easier for small time writers. Check it out, might be worth it if you are gonna be prolific.

      • Diddlydee@feddit.ukEnglish
        6·
        3 个月前

        Thanks. I’ve got two young kids and a busy job so not as prolific as I’d like. Maybe a book every 3-4 years, longer if it’s a grand fantasy. My first one was a quarter of a million words in a world I created from scratch, so that took maybe 6 years.

        • EveryMuffinIsNowEncrypted@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
          3·
          3 个月前

          You are an inspiration. :)

          Speaking as someone who rarely ever writes because life keeps getting in the way but still hopes to be published someday. Every day it seems that dream gets further and further away… :(

          • Diddlydee@feddit.ukEnglish
            2·
            3 个月前

            All you need to do is start and do what you can when you can. Spare minutes here and there all add up. Don’t get bogged down in minutiae. You’ll get there no matter how long it takes.

    • callouscomic@lemm.eeEnglish
      7·
      3 个月前

      I saw a comment recently online regarding publishing an indie video game that “nobody played” where people noted you set out to do your goal that very few people ever complete. You published. You’re a winner. You accomplished your feat.

      I had similar stuff with music once in my life. It never went where I or others might have hoped. But we recorded and made albums. We played tons of shows. We had a few fans. We opened for big names we loved. I feel like a winner too.

      I’m not really saying this to reply to you. I’m not even sure you need to hear it. But someone out there does. Don’t let others define what success or winning is. By setting out to accomplish something, and doing it, that’s a winner already.

      • Diddlydee@feddit.ukEnglish
        1·
        3 个月前

        No worries about doxxing as I write under a pseudonym. Let Thy Wisdom Fear: The Gathering by D.T. Wilkinson. It’s on Amazon. There’s also my book of horror shorts called Tales Uncanny, which I just last week noticed a spelling error on the back cover courtesy of my darling wife and I haven’t fixed it yet.

  • Suck_on_my_Presence@lemmy.world
    20·
    3 个月前

    Honestly, just where I’m at in life. I’ve been pulling myself up by my bootstraps for all my life.

    Grew up in bumfuck poorsville with abusive parents, joined the military, did some cool stuff, left and went to college, bought a house, graduated, sold the house, moved across country, got a job with my degree, and found a solid friendship group who encourage and care for me and vice versa.

    This is all while suffering from an unseen disease that I was finally diagnosed with while in college and have been fighting against ever since.

    I am proud of my achievements and I can really say to myself that I made it, despite everything, I made it.

  • MerchantsOfMisery@lemmy.ml
    20·
    3 个月前

    Talked a friend out of suicide when COVID first hit and a bunch of people lost their jobs and homes. Now he’s got a pretty sweet work from home job with full benefits and his own place again. Am very happy for him.

    • Bob@feddit.nl
      3·
      3 个月前

      A friend of mine once said he’d join the army only because he didn’t have anything to live for, but I ended up helping him get a job on the railway and now he’s a train driver, and a good one at that.

  • demoman@lemmy.oneEnglish
    18·
    3 个月前

    In the past 365 days I have gained almost half a million views and more than 4000 new subscribers on youtube :)

  • Oka@sopuli.xyz
    11·
    3 个月前

    Bachelor’s Degree. Not happy with the debt that came with it, and the lack of employment in the field since Covid and AI

    • InputZero@lemmy.ml
      3·
      3 个月前

      Welcome to the truth about university. It gives you more debt than you can handle, and a job that doesn’t pay enough.

      • Oka@sopuli.xyz
        3·
        3 个月前

        On the contrary, the pay would be more than enough for me (single and alone) but actually getting the job is the hard part.

      • EveryMuffinIsNowEncrypted@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        3·
        3 个月前

        I feel that.

        Spent 5 years in college, had to drop out because I ran out of money, now I work a dead-end job in retail for shit pay and like 70k in debt.

        Don’t do college kids. It ain’t worth it. Or, rather, do college but do community (or a trade school).

  • WeirdGoesPro@lemmy.dbzer0.com
    11·
    3 个月前

    Honestly, I’m struggling right now. Spent my 20’s waiting for something to happen that never did. Decided to change my life in my 30’s, and while I am a lot happier and more honest with myself in a lot of ways, I have also alienated people who were close to me by adopting new interests that they don’t share.

    I try to meet new people, but it’s hard. The ones out socializing tend to be much younger or older than me, and the ones my age are having kids and stuff.

    It has been really hard to find a balance between building the life I want to live, and not having changes isolate me to the point of loneliness.

    If my wife goes, I may just have to cut everyone off and start fresh, but that terrifies me.

    So, with all that, I guess I’m proud that I’m still trying and haven’t just given up completely and moved back in with mom like some of my contemporaries have.

  • Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    10·
    3 个月前

    Homeless at 18. First apartment at 20. Put myself through college going part time while working 2 jobs, 21-25. Bought my first home at 29. Hit 6 figures at 33. Now in the top 10% of earners in my city.

    I had no one, no support network. Just me and a goal and strategic hard work every single day.

    The tough part is I’m now in my mid 30s and have had very little life experience because all I’ve been doing is working. Never been on an airplane or have been on a vacation. No passport or friends or social life outside of 2 internet friends. It’s been tough to sit down and figure out what will actually make me happy now that I’ve achieved my life goals.

  • Tanis Nikana@lemmy.world
    8·
    3 个月前

    I’ve bought a house, got married, published two books, do stand-up and host a small game show, survived two strokes, transitioned, and have a lot of friends who think I’m tolerable.

  • kingthrillgore@lemmy.ml
    81·
    3 个月前

    I paid off my college loans in full in 2019.

    I deleted my reddit account.

    I’m the first person in my family to get a University degree.

    I’ve been sober for four years now.

  • ace_garp@lemmy.world
    7·
    3 个月前

    About 10 years ago I qualified to enter a state pinball tournament.

    Of 16 qualifying entrants(or who could be bothered to enter), I placed 6th.

    So I see it as, I was the 6th best pinball player in a state of 3million people, for a year. :-)

    • frunch@lemmy.world
      2·
      3 个月前

      Woot woot! Congrats on that achievement, fellow pinball person! I scrolled this thread just to see if anyone mentioned ye olde silverball and I am not disappointed!

      Own any pins? Top 3 favorite games?

      • ace_garp@lemmy.world
        2·
        3 个月前

        One of the tables at this tournament was Walking Dead too!, unforgiving table angle.

        I own no pins at home, except toy size Batman battery operated(Funrise with the ramps)

        My top table is Banzai Run (2 games in 1 ;-), can 7x replay

        I like Attack from Mars(and just a little less Revenge from Mars).

        The original Indy:Pinball Adventure is an all time favourite and one of the first I played(as long as the flippers have enough kick to score jackpots and reach the Path of Adventure).

        If I got a table, it would be Judge Dredd.

        Grew up only playing 80s/90s video arcade machines. Appreciated pinball later, especially the analog aspect and finding out about basic moves like lane-transfers.

        My nonpro-tip: Read the info-card for the word multiball! (c:

        • frunch@lemmy.world
          2·
          3 个月前

          Good stuff! I enjoy Banzai Run as well, my buddy and I always get a few rounds on that one at our local pinball haunt. That vertical playfield is super cool!

          Never got to clock much time on Indy or Dredd, love AFM though. That’s a game i would consider for my collection someday–that one or Medieval Madness, both are just awesome games. I collect mostly late-70’s/early 80’s solid state games, though i have a particular soft spot for the classic Bally’s and Sterns from that era…

          • ace_garp@lemmy.world
            2·
            3 个月前

            I like that era too.

            Aztec(1976) came up recently, and I was very much considering getting it, due to the in-depth detail in these Technology Connections videos. Not sure if the gameplay is any good though.

            Medieval is fun, launching cows and all.

            The original ST:TNG was great also.