• barneypiccolo@lemm.eeEnglish
    151·
    2 days ago

    • What music do you like?

    • MAGA?

    If you like music, and hate MAGAs, we can be good friends.

    If you dont like music, and hate MAGAs, we can probably still be friends.

    If you LOVE the music I love, but are MAGA, then you can fuck right off. I don’t hang with Nazis, no matter what your musical tastes are.

  • Sergio@slrpnk.net
    491·
    2 days ago
    • What is your name?
    • What is your quest?
    • What is the air-speed velocity of an unladen swallow?
    • endeavor@sopuli.xyzEnglish
      3·
      1 day ago

      I know a few who would answer skyrim, avengers and ???. They’re kinda nice but also insanely lame and boring.

  • MTK@lemmy.world
    131·
    2 days ago
    • Is modern medicine a scam?
    • Is the current political world trend good or bad?
    • Do you respect transgender people?

    Reasoning:

    • Are they conspiracy theorists
    • Are they pro oppression and racism
    • Are they tolerable of people who are seen as extremely outside of the standard norms and recognize that they don’t pose a threat to them personally
  • dadjokesfordays@lemmy.caEnglish
    9·
    2 days ago

    What brings you happiness or joy in life?

    What do you do for fun?

    What’s one thing you’d 100% recommend to someone brand new to the world?

    • TehBamski@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
      10·
      2 days ago

      Yeah I know not to just come out asking them these three questions. I just had the thought of what kind of questions you could ask to quickly and greatly understand the kind of person in front of you.

      • BeefPiano@lemmy.worldEnglish
        19·
        2 days ago

        Actions speak louder than words. How about three questions to ask yourself?

        1. Do I feel better when I have been with them?
        2. Do they respect me?
        3. Do I respect them?
        • BertramDitore@lemm.eeEnglish
          6·
          2 days ago

          I recently asked myself similar questions about two friends I knew for about 15 years. I thought I had been close with them, but I quickly answered No to all of them (plus a bunch of follow-ups I asked myself), and realized they were never real friends, or at least hadn’t been for a while, they were just people who were accustomed to seeing me and sometimes making plans together.

          I always felt anxious after hanging out with them, never felt like they listened to or cared about anything I said, never remembered my preferences or things about my personal life from visit to visit, never believed me when I said I knew something, etc etc. It’s easy to get used to this kind of thing and to think it’s normal and healthy, but it was so exhausting and frustrating for me that I finally gave up and haven’t talked to them in over a year.

          Sometimes these types of questions are super helpful in evaluating longstanding relationships as well as new ones.

      • blackbrook@mander.xyz
        5·
        2 days ago

        But that very impulse is inimical to making friends. You make friends by being open to making friends, and by being interested in other people, regardless of whether they are ‘friend material.’

        You shouldn’t even be assuming you know or can predict what makes someone friend material for you. One can be surprised.

  • wildncrazyguy138@fedia.io
    30·
    3 days ago
    • hey, my name is _____, what’s yours?
    • are you looking for new friends?
    • great I do _____ on ______ days, would you like to join?
    • TehBamski@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
      6·
      3 days ago

      This is great. But how do you deal with people that you’ve invited to an event that’s public, and you didn’t gel with them?

      • Endmaker@ani.socialEnglish
        17·
        3 days ago

        you didn’t gel with them?

        Then you don’t become friends with them. If you really want to, just make small talk and be acquaintances.

    • hakunawazo@lemmy.world
      3·
      2 days ago

      Enterprise D - I like the carpet.

      Heath Ledger.

      Immolate - I’m not a destroyer, but $20 is $20.

    • Oberyn@lemmy.world
      1·
      2 days ago
      • Either (checkered|erratic|anaglyph)
      • (Castle|satellite) for artwork , square joker + pair of trousers combo bcus most runs end up playing 2 pairs
      • Cryptid
    • Jayjader@jlai.lu
      1·
      2 days ago

      Red

      Batter

      Shit I can’t remember most of them, but the “add 3 enchanted aces” is pretty solid (that is a spectral effect, right?)

      As you might be able to tell, I play pretty conservatively. Though that might change once I’ve unlocked more.

    • demunted@lemmy.ml
      1·
      2 days ago

      The one I imagine where every right wing conservative is given a haymaker of justice.

      The original tv Batman series was great growing up.

      I’m too much of a nerd to understand - is this all a balatro reference?

  • FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world
    283·
    3 days ago

    My dad, when I was a kid, used to open the door quickly, look down at my visiting friend and say “Who the hell are you?”

    Then he’d shut the door abruptly, wait 3-4 seconds, then open it, laugh, and welcome them in.

    If you can do that and they don’t get offended, they’re friend material.

    • RadicalEagle@lemmy.world
      291·
      3 days ago

      Wide implementation of this technique would certainly explain why anxious/nervous people would have fewer friends.

    • corsicanguppy@lemmy.caEnglish
      4·
      2 days ago

      My dad, when I was a kid, used to open the door quickly, look down at my visiting friend and say “Who the hell are you?”

      Sad story time.

      A friend of mine was visiting one of our mutual friends nearby in the big city while I was in the far, far outskirts. He was such a positive influence that I agreed to come visit at the same time and catch up, as he was always a great time. This excellent friend always brought a gallon of stories, his usual infectious manner, and this time he brought a surprise new girlfriend.

      I did the “who the hell are you” and she got put off. It went reeeally poorly. They left for home the next day, ahead of schedule, back to America. He shut me out. Over the years he kinda shut everyone else there out, too, as far as I know, as he focused on the birth of two kids in succession and then his wife’s affliction with an aggressive debilitating disease; it may have been ALS. He shut a lot of ancillary things and people out, and I get that of course, but I am disappointed that my last interaction was a bombed joke.

      It’s been 18 years. I finally booted him from my social media about 7-8 years ago.

  • neukenindekeuken@sh.itjust.works
    7·
    2 days ago

    Just be interested and ask them questions about their life and hobbies and see if they do the same.

    It’s a starting place. The rest depends on building trust and respect and common interests.

    • Jarix@lemmy.world
      1·
      2 days ago

      Oof. Guys be interested in people i don’t know anything about… In this day and age?

      Fuuuuuuuxk im cooked

  • NONE@lemmy.world
    14·
    3 days ago
    1. Do you like Anime?
    2. Do you like Attack on Titan/Death Note?
    3. What do you think about Eren/Light?
    • Dharma Curious (he/him)@slrpnk.net
      5·
      2 days ago

      Yes, but I haven’t watched a ton.

      Those two are my favorites of what I’ve seen (outside of Ghibli, which I feel like is a category unto itself).

      I haven’t seen the last season of Attack on Titan, so don’t spoil it, but I feel like Eren is complicated enough that I’m not going to form a full opinion until I see how it plays out. Light, however, I think is an irredeemable sociopath that justified his murderlust by going after socially convenient targets until he decided it didn’t matter anymore, and began to think of himself as a god.

      Fucking excellent storytelling, but I didn’t care for the L replacement kid

    • TehBamski@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
      6·
      3 days ago

      I’d say Hard Rock or Llanite.

      Octopus rolls at a sushi bar. I wasn’t a fan of it. It’s too chewy for me.

      I’m a well rounded nerd IMO. I’m into video games of all kinds, movies, TV shows and lore from Warhammer 40k.

      How about yourself?

  • m_f@discuss.onlineEnglish
    10·
    3 days ago

    My only question is “What are the four essential freedoms of free software?”. If they can list them I know they’re alright

      • m_f@discuss.onlineEnglish
        4·
        2 days ago

        Close enough, you’re cool. Here’s the actual list though (wiki link):

        • Freedom 0: The freedom to use the program for any purpose.
        • Freedom 1: The freedom to study how the program works, and change it to make it do what you wish.
        • Freedom 2: The freedom to redistribute and make copies so you can help your neighbor.
        • Freedom 3: The freedom to improve the program, and release your improvements (and modified versions in general) to the public, so that the whole community benefits.