This is fully sexual assault
That’s why I bring my ID and passport to restaurants. Gotta prove I’m white, hunkydory, citizen and male. Having to show my dick in public places gets old quick. But then I need to show I’m black or Chinese for other things.
And this is in a state with no anti-trans bathroom laws. This server has no excuse other than being a complete piece of shit. Wish they’d name and shame her.
Based on the article the server is a woman.
“She made me feel very uncomfortable,” Mudra said. “After that, I just don’t like going in public bathrooms. I just hold it in. … I want to be able to use the bathroom in peace.”
My point still stands, but thank you for the correction. Fixed.
She should press charges for harrassment.
I consider this a sexual act on a minor, so file a police report.
She’s 18. It’s the second word after the headline.
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It seems like these news stories only get written when the victim is a cis person mistaken for being trans.
The last one before this I read was an ftm guy, Luca Strobel, who had to use the woman’s bathroom since there were no stalls in the men’s.
https://lemmy.ca/post/45048725
https://lemmy.world/post/30614642Though, those publications are considerably less mainstream, so you still have a point.
It’s because trans technology is so advanced that they all pass undetected. /s
In all seriousness, I think it reflects just how distorted the anti-trans bigot’s perception of reality is and how enabled they feel to act on those perceptions. These people believe that trans people are more common than they actually are and they are hyper-fixated on proving it.
I think your critique of the “not a problem until it affects me” nature of this is valid; however, this also signifies that transphobia is becoming less rhetorical and more actionable. That is terrifying for anyone who doesn’t meet the arbitrary socially acceptable expressions of gender.
My hope here is that more people will come to realize how stupid transphobia and gender/bathroom policing is when they start to realize that it affects them, too.
can we switch to gender neutral bathrooms please?
In a society where women are often harassed, many women use bathrooms to escape men, even if just for a few moments of peace.
But can you prove your gender is neutral? 🧐
All I know is that my genitals say “maybe”
What makes genitals go neutral?
Lust for gold? Power?
Two magic 8 balls and one of those tubes that goes wuuueaugh when inverted
It’s when your crotch is flat, obviously, like a playmobil
If you’re completely flat then there’s your proof
You can show them your flat pics
Alternative version: you show them your intersex official member card™️
Yes
Welcome to Republicans’ America. This comes right after Trump’s administration started forcing trans folks out of the military, yet denying them retirement benefits. People with 15-18 years of service to our country that had been previously approved for early retirement have now had that rescinded because they are “medically unfit”. The hatred is in full force…
having their retirement stolen from them is fucking vile
I’m actually surprised that I have not heard about people dying as a result of this
I’m surprised there haven’t been lawsuits around breach of contracts
Removed by mod
Even the mods agree. You gotta burn bad behavior back before it spreads.
It’s gross that the victim of this scenario is now made public and yet the sexual abuser identity here is protected? Wtf.
The Republican way
It’s also worth mentioning Buffalo wild wings in the comments. Because they apparently don’t have enough policy to keep their servers from trying to gender check people.
It’s also worth mentioning there’s only one BWW in Owatonna, Minn.
It looks we’re one step away from someone having to physically “verify” someone’s gender.
“I only inserted my fingers into their vagina to make sure that it was real.”
“I touched their penis to confirm that it was indeed real.”
… and I feared for my life from the genitalia touchers, so I started blasting.
https://imgur.com/gallery/cats-dont-draw-BG6ex7S
Alt text - A comic of an androgynous person being asked “Hey are you MALE or FEMALE”. The person’s response is “Yes.” A follow up question being asked “Ok but which do you prefer”. Response “Cats” (with a little heart). Another follow up question is being asked “No I mean what’s in your pants?!!” The person raises their shirt to show a pistol underneath the waist band of their pants with their response “A gun”.
With a gun, right?
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Pro tip: If a place serves chicken wings, and calls them “Buffalo Wings” just do yourself a favor, and skip it.
Do you apply a similar rule to California Rolls, Texas Toast, Key Lime Pie, New York Cheesecake, or Philly Cheesesteaks?
I mean I don’t like Buffalo sauce either, but you are basically saying just skip wings altogether because everywhere seems to do this.
What’s wrong with Buffalo?
Buffalo buffalo buffalo buffalo buffalo buffalo buffalo buffalo
They’re endangered.
What an absolute fascist restraunt
you keep using that word… i do not think it means what you think it means
You’re right, BWW probably isn’t fit to be called a restaurant
arguing with absolutism vs expediency i see
Younger people are generally easier to groom. Ladies and Gentlemen, introducing, The Hitler Youth movement
It’s worse… My understanding is that you didn’t really have much of a choice about joining the Hitler Youth
This was by design. Anti-trans fear-mongering was always meant to punish men who don’t look manly enough and women who don’t look like 50s housewives. The cruelty is the point.
