Obviously I’m talking about two adults, I’m just wondering when it goes from okay to “a bit iffy”, either older or younger

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      I think the rule breaks down any time before ~21 (always round up). In general, if you’re over 18, don’t date someone under 18. If you’re both under 18 idk but probably don’t exceed a two year age gap.

      If you’re 19-20, get fucked I guess.

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        If you’re 19-20, get fucked I guess.

        But that’s exactly what they want, and it’s the only thing on their mind! D:

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      The high school to college transition makes things complicated for reasons other than just ages.

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      They could be in a similar phase of life. I was still 17 when I started college and had a full-time job. A 20 year old could still be in high school if they were held back. This is kind of the range where you can start counting months or talking about how different school systems have different cutoff dates that can mess with things.

      I would not recommend 20 year olds and 17 year olds date in general. But it’s very possible for two people of those ages to date without being creepy or having problems.

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          Romeo and Juliet laws are fairly common. 24 states allow a 2 to 5 year age difference. AFAIK, federal law allows up to a 4-year age difference.

          The other 26 seem kinda stupid. Two kids can be in the same class and dating since 6th grade, but for 6 months in their senior year, it’s rape. How does that make sense?

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            There’s gotta be some stricter “rules”. Because 19 dating 15 would be weeeeiiiiiird. It’s always iffy because the older you get. The larger the gap is acceptable. Like 25-10 is gross AF right. But 55-40 isn’t a huge deal.

            (Saying “25-10 is gross” and getting downvoted for it is concerning on so many levels. You know who you are you fucking weirdo