Since I see at least one or two comments questioning things:
For me, it’s a matter of consent and autonomy.
Even if it’s something you know for certain I would be interested in seeing, does it really have to be right this second? If you asked me whether I wanted to see it right now on your phone, would you honestly be totally okay with me saying no, and even if so, is there a chance I’d be concerned it would offend/upset you if I said no?
Most of the time, I just don’t like being pressured into doing stuff, even if it’s stuff I like. And also, if I’m doing other things, it’s probably because I need or want to do those other things rather than watch a video with your phone’s poor quality speakers, on your small screen that’s way too far away, in your shaky hands, and in your hot breath zone.
And also, is this really an issue that’s gender / masculinity specific? Based on my personal experience, it’s mostly children who do this. And then next in line are adult women younger than 50. But the adult women thing is not so much of an outlier that I’d call this a feminine/woman thing.
In my household, when we have a video we want to force upon others, we share the link or cast it to the TV like old geezers.
I think you’re spot on about the autonomy angle. Even if it’s a video that I would enjoy watching at that moment, I always feel uncomfy knowing that I can’t really say no at that point.
Anecdotally, I have noticed that it is more prevalent of a thing for men to do, but there’s definitely a lot more going on than this being straightforwardly gendered. A friend speculated that women are less likely to do it because they are more likely to implicitly understand and be able to navigate situations involving coerced consent. Others in the friend group disagreed with the assertion that this is primarily a male phenomenon, citing their own personal experiences with women showing videos in this manner too. I don’t know what to make of it overall, but certainly I’ve heard enough dissenting opinions to be sure that my own anecdata is not representative of everyone’s experiences
Since I see at least one or two comments questioning things:
For me, it’s a matter of consent and autonomy.
Even if it’s something you know for certain I would be interested in seeing, does it really have to be right this second? If you asked me whether I wanted to see it right now on your phone, would you honestly be totally okay with me saying no, and even if so, is there a chance I’d be concerned it would offend/upset you if I said no?
Most of the time, I just don’t like being pressured into doing stuff, even if it’s stuff I like. And also, if I’m doing other things, it’s probably because I need or want to do those other things rather than watch a video with your phone’s poor quality speakers, on your small screen that’s way too far away, in your shaky hands, and in your hot breath zone.
And also, is this really an issue that’s gender / masculinity specific? Based on my personal experience, it’s mostly children who do this. And then next in line are adult women younger than 50. But the adult women thing is not so much of an outlier that I’d call this a feminine/woman thing.
In my household, when we have a video we want to force upon others, we share the link or cast it to the TV like old geezers.
I think you’re spot on about the autonomy angle. Even if it’s a video that I would enjoy watching at that moment, I always feel uncomfy knowing that I can’t really say no at that point.
Anecdotally, I have noticed that it is more prevalent of a thing for men to do, but there’s definitely a lot more going on than this being straightforwardly gendered. A friend speculated that women are less likely to do it because they are more likely to implicitly understand and be able to navigate situations involving coerced consent. Others in the friend group disagreed with the assertion that this is primarily a male phenomenon, citing their own personal experiences with women showing videos in this manner too. I don’t know what to make of it overall, but certainly I’ve heard enough dissenting opinions to be sure that my own anecdata is not representative of everyone’s experiences