artist is PapadamnNoire

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    But he’s taller than both the girls in the top picture. How is that even short?

    So, anecdotal, but I have found this runs both ways. Tall guys go for short girls. Short guys go for girls shorter than them usually. Guys my height (the average height here) are less likely to care.

    Average height of men in the US is 5’9" or a smidge shorter, for women 5’4" or a smidge shorter. In this YouGov survey the title was “ideal height for a woman is 5’6”, for a man 5’11" which I think is kind of funny, like everyone just wants to be two inches taller.

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      42 minutes ago

      Unless you’re significantly taller than the average for your gender and it contributes to your gender dysphoria. If I didn’t lose 3 inches from peak height, I’d feel so much worse about myself.

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    the top pic, is all superficial and you encounter them on dating apps alot i never used one but my bro does, they either went 6ft, or 7-10inch penises(as soon as they know you are asian they will ask that), and then INCOME range, which also attract different kind of partners.

    the bottom one is different since it likely stems from adult entertainment,

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      I have encountered maybe 5 people like that ever on dating apps, and I use dating apps a lot.

      This stereotype is wildly exaggerated.

    • TankovayaDiviziya@lemmy.world
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      Yeah dating apps are silly. It replaced bars as places with bad reputation to try to meet partners. I’m short but still have gotten interests from girls in real life despite my height, not so much in dating apps.

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    8 hours ago

    people who get so hung up on hight are often the worst to talk to because they are so superficial. You forget that you also have to like each other

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    My life experience as a 5’5" trans gal:

    As a repper: “why does my family have to be so short? This is awful. No one will take me seriously.”

    Post-transition: “I won the god damned lottery.”

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        I assure you I’ve had my own troubles and challenges in life. But at least in this area I got pretty lucky.

        Though even then, it’s complicated. Yes, I’m 5’5", but the only way a trans gal is 5’5" is if she comes from a family of short people. I’m the same height as my dad and brothers. I tower over my mother and sisters. They’re more like 5’1".

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          fucking selective breeding.

          Me : Wavy hair, curly at the back. Wife : wavy hair.

          Daughter : Fucking afro, almost. Doesn’t help that her great-grandfather is “Italian”

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          Tall here but thankfully everyone else is tall so if cancels out.

          How to say you’re dutch without saying “oepsie woepsie! de trein is stukkie wukkie we sijn huel hard aan t werk om di te make msskan je beter fwietsen owo”

          EDIT also “cuckstoel”

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    I used to think I was a hot commodity in the gay community until I realized it was only the ugly old guys hitting on me. Never the hot young ones. Let me tell you, my illusions were shattered. But then I got older and the young hot ones started giving me fuck-me eyes and now my illusions are back again

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      it seems alot of gay couple in my area, 1 of them is always older40+ and the other one is a 20+ usually buff/hot something year old. probably looking for a daddy figure, or look at a financially well off partner? other than that its mostly people the same age usually for younger gay couples. gay adult entertainment might have something to do with that perception.

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      24 hours ago

      As a 40 something bi man who’s single again for the first time in 18 years, I’ve been shocked by the number of twinks who have assertively pursued me. Never in a million years would I have anticipated this

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      Sounds like the whole time you were/are the cup of tea of many people, even if they weren’t yours :)

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      Yeah, when I started getting visibly grey hair the baby gays started to gravitate towards me. I’m still a little mystified by it TBH, I guess I have the Dommy Mommy thing down pat, lol

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      I’m 53 and what the kids call omni. Once I hit my forties i was suddenly getting hit on by young CIS men, young CIS women, young trans men and young non-binary folk. Not young trans women though. Only trans women close to my age showed interest, and only if I pursued first.

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      Sometimes a fine wine needs a little more time on the shelf. Time to pop that cork baby

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    It drives me crazy how hung up people get over the 6’ label; it’s mostly dating app bs. The guy in the comic is taller than both of the women, which is generally all that’s required to be successful in the dating pool. Sure some women are insistent about the 6’ limit, but so what? Given how many people refuse to date outside their race/religion, you’re already not going to attract everyone, so if you’re under 6’ add the height-obsessed to that list and move on.

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        Nah, I was joking. I tried 3 apps this month:

        1. Fet — shows you ads on every move. Even to check your gallery you need to watch full screen ad. Patched this out by luckypatcher - still shows ads now and then. Swaps are limited in free account. No commenting either. No one answered to my messages, nor messaged me. Uses imperial system instead of metric, you can switch it if you verify your account apparently, but I couldn’t: my country not supported.
        2. Bumpy — couldn’t bare onboarding video that bugged out and started showing each time I launch app. Like, straight up unskippable video about “how great this app is” for about 3 minutes. Also, profile strictly moderated, couldn’t even put my discord/telegram, got blocked. Also-also, uses imperial system instead of metric (I live in Europe) and you can’t switch it at all.
        3. Velvet — paid account required for most things, “Delete account” button throws 404 error (you can’t delete account), “Support&help” doesn’t react (probably dummy button and not mapped anywhere), there no profiles unless you max out range (capped for free account at 50km I believe) and then it will show one profile - app just a fraud.

        So yeah, nah, I’m done for now. It’s not even dating itself that sucks, but even experience of getting there.

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          There’s also feeld, easily the most success I’ve ever had on an app, but it is buggy as fuck.