Too many straight people use this as the third sentence in a conversation with someone they just met though. Like, a formative moment in my psychological development is not something I’m accustomed to discussing with random strangers. It’s different when it comes up in conversations with friends.
Add to that the weight of the oppressive sociocultural context that required me to have a developmental moment of revelation in the first place, instead of just, you know, being able to be whatever I am without having to wade though a pile of fear, guilt, and shame to get there. Yeah… it shouldn’t be a casual question.
“You’re straight? I- I never knew. That must have been so hard for you.”
[leans in for hug]
Oh, I have a straight cousin too, he’s cool.
‘Oh, I have a straight cousin too, unfortunately’
“So when did you know?”
No no no… It’s a decision. At some point, the person must have decided to live a straight life…
“What did your parents say when you told them?”
" You are no longer my son… because now you’re my daughter and I love you unconditionally."
What’s wrong with this question? Many non-straight people talk about a specific moment when they realized it fully.
Too many straight people use this as the third sentence in a conversation with someone they just met though. Like, a formative moment in my psychological development is not something I’m accustomed to discussing with random strangers. It’s different when it comes up in conversations with friends.
Add to that the weight of the oppressive sociocultural context that required me to have a developmental moment of revelation in the first place, instead of just, you know, being able to be whatever I am without having to wade though a pile of fear, guilt, and shame to get there. Yeah… it shouldn’t be a casual question.
I see what you mean, and yeah I agree it can be inappropriate depending on the situation.
For me, it was that Alisha Silverstone and Liv Tyler Aerosmith video.
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