This is becoming more common in my town. I just either feel like an ass saying I dont have cash, or lying, but I also can’t be giving out 20’s to everyone who asks.
I feel bad for most of them but at the same time I get anxiety walking down the sidewalk and seeing someone up ahead that I know is going to ask me for money. Its not like you can say “oh no, I donate to services that help the needy” because that person isn’t necessarily being helped by that. And ignoring completely feels so mean, plus I tried that one time and the person was screaming at me as i walked away that I ignored them.
I also dont want my city to round them up and send them to prison camps, something they are planning and that I know a lot of people would vote for just to “get rid of them” but im not supporting that at all.
Its tough.
I feel really guilty and to avoid feeling worse by making eye contact, I just ignore them. The first time I encountered somebody homeless after being on my own, I felt like a huge asshole because all I could say was sorry while walking by them with grocery’s. I didn’t have cash on me at the time. Ever since then, I’ve just always ignored them. I’m what they call a hypocrite. Sucks
I lived in a rough neighborhood for a good while. It hardens you to it a bit. I just say I don’t have anything for them.
I have given sporadically in the past, depending on how poor I was at the time, etc.
I don’t carry cash at all anymore, though.
Sometimes I give, sometimes I don’t, kinda depends if I have cash.
As a reasonably sized man, I also try to make eye contact and give a polite “Sorry I don’t have anything today.” For those who really need the help and are trying like hell to get it, I can’t imagine the insult to injury you must feel to not only not get help but also to be treated as though you are invisible. I like to at least let people who ask know that I can see them.
If you’re in a legitimately dangerous place or you feel you may be at risk in some way maybe don’t do this though.
I tell them the truth: I don’t carry cash.
Its not like you can say “oh no, I donate to services that help the needy” because that person isn’t necessarily being helped by that.
I had a friend say exactly that to someone. When I asked them further about it, they said, “he knows where to find a cot.” That was more convincing to me before I listened to the “According to Need,” Podcast. It looked at homelessness in the Bay Area (where we live) and getting a bed is nearly impossible.
I don’t usually give money cause I rarely carry small bills. But sometimes. And I will without fail buy food for anyone who asks.
i give them money, just $10. I feel bad and I’ll be thinking about it all day. Even if they do something wrong with it at least they know someone cared
Ignore them.
I try to have food bars and give it to them. Hopefully they eat it and not trade it for drugs or something
hi i’ll take 2 drugs please, please accept this kinder surprise egg as payment
If you don’t have the means to help with what they’re asking for, a quick “Sorry, can’t help today” and going about your business is they way to go. It’s not a full on engagement, but it is an acknowledgement.
Back when I was a smoker, if I didn’t have means to help with cash but had some smokes to spare and a little time I’d say “No, but if you smoke I can share one with you” and, if they were into it, stop and chat for a cigarette break’s length of time. Lots of factors to consider here before doing that, but for the most part people enjoyed the acknowledgement for a few minutes. YMMV.
Peacefully coexisting is the hope imo. Just leave people alone, offer help if you can, otherwise wish them well.
Anyone harassing either has drug or mental issues, not much you can do but limit interactions.
Sound like asylums may be returning, so that will probably be horrible.
I just tell them I’ve only got my card on me and keep walking.
As physical money is becoming more and more obsolete this is becoming less of a lie. And I certainly don’t carry change on me anymore.
I used to give them whatever small change/bills I had on me, but then I realized that effectively added up to another monthly bill and I’m trying to save up for a home and need to have rainy day money in case my car eats shit. I vote to help them every chance I get and that is enough. If that isn’t enough, then that’s our system’s fault, not my personal fault.
I almost never have cash or even change now, so that’s what I tell them. I used to give them some money if I had it and wasn’t immediately going to use it. One of my old friends used to give them a beer out of a pack he bought if there was a person outside the store or on the corner begging on the drive to wherever he was going.
Homeless people over here accept Venmo or similar
If you have the time, give them food? Idk
Depending on how they ask, it’s either a short polite “no” or I just ignore them (it’s mostly the former, thankfully). I rarely, if ever, have cash on me. And although it sometimes happen, I’m not exactly safe from a single bad month putting me under anyway.
Something I won’t do is insult/harass/otherwise make them even more miserable. If I can’t help them, I’m sure as hell won’t make things worse for them.
I give what I can when I can. It’s rare to have actual cash, but if it’s close to a restaurant I just ask if they want food or drink and buy them something with my card. Takes 5 minutes and is just a small act of kindness and support from another person. Most people don’t even acknowledge they exist, let alone talk to them.
Life under capitalism seriously sucks for all of us (except a few hundred people), if I can maybe help make someone’s day a little less shitty I’ll try.
I don’t mean this in a judgemental way at all, but just remember that they are humans too, just like you or I. Most people do not realize just how insanely lucky they are to be able to do basic things like work and have a house and car and have money and all that many people don’t get the same opportunities and are dealt a bad hand in life through no fault of theirs. One big medical bill can make someone homeless in this system. Don’t feel bad or awkward about having some resources that others don’t have, but you can also slow down and share a little.
Treat other people how you would want to be treated if roles reversed. Simple as that.
Again, I don’t mean to make anyone feel bad for not giving. I also don’t mean to elevate myself in the least, I’m not any better than you, I’m just trying to help people see the humanity in others regardless of money.
