Seems like he tried to get as much shit mixed up as possible. Wtf was going on in his 6y relationship, church brainwashing?
I swear, some people just love to cross every single wire at the same time. Why take everything one step at a time when you could just fall all over yourself by skimming everything and smashing it together because you’ve got fifteen things happening at once and are in control of precisely zero of them? See also: people who get confused and just throw their hands up in the air even if no one is judging them and the answers would come if they spent four honest minutes figuring it out.
It probably wasn’t his relationship and hell, his uselessness may even be why it ended.
I’ll take owning your ignorance over angry defensiveness any day
Why is no one commenting on how fucking sanist this is?
You’d be rightfully immediately reprehended if you said “you’re sexy asf for [X minority group]”. This applies here as well.
you’re sexy as fuck for a lemming
If someone said “you’re sexy asf for an autist” I’d punch them in the face and then start laughing my ass off. I wouldn’t even be insulted for the insinuation I’d be insulted that they tried to compliment me, I do not need your compliments insult me like the hill savage that I am.
sanist
Wtf was that opening line, is he also new to humans
For comparison, some dudes just send dick pics en masse and still manage to hook up without saying a word.
The shotgun method
I personally think, we should apply a shotgun to those dicks who randomly send dick picks.
I have known women who save dick pics specifically to reply to these messages
Hopefully replying with “Mine’s bigger”
That’s actually a very good idea
the shotgun method
I am convinced the world would be a better place, since unsolicited dick pics is a consent issue and I’ve got no love for those who don’t find consent sexy
Spray 'n spray
Shotgun dicks hit different
One pump, a finger on the trigger, and it discharges?
On the other hand, it didn’t get him an immediate block so maybe he was on to something there.
It’s possible this was a ‘screenshot, then ban’ situation. For the poor receiver, they might have a more forgiving view. As someone else said, I’ll take the rapid backpedaling upon realization of the error over angry doubling down.
We are pleased.
The council accepts your apology.
Along with the rest of the wrongness, he’s calling DID schizophrenia
tf does DID mean? i dont understand all the terminology. i just got out of a 6 year relationship im new to this
Honestly, it’s what I read was the correct term when I googled multiple personality. Dissociative Identity Disorder. I just remembered schizophrenia isn’t that, it’s hearing voices, maybe hallucinating, being separated from reality, but you’re still one you.
This, but in ironically.
The correct term is Dissociative Identity Disorder. Schizophrenia means split mind in Greek, but was never used to mean the patient acted as though they were different individuals. Just that there were other split portions of their mind interacting with the patient.
Thanks!
Well, it’s like comparing all neurominorities to down syndrome. That’s why I need to fuck around with the genius political system I live in all the time.
And saying people with disabilities are inherently less sexy
Eh, DID is too narrow a scope. Being multiple people isn’t automatically a disorder.
Genuinely curious, when is being multiple people not a disorder (I am thinking Jason Bourne spy stuff)?
Here’s the relevant section of the DSM:
All dissociative disorders (quite possibly all disorders, we haven’t read the whole DSM) require the presence of clinically significant distress or impairment in order to be considered a disorder.
There is no specific entry for nondisordered plurality for the same reason that there is no entry for individuals who do not experience mental disorder: The DSM catalogues mental disorders, not the entirety of the human experience. It’s beyond the scope of the document.
Here’s a good introductory primer to plurality:
Thank you for the links. I will read that information and have a better understanding.
Simple answer: when it’s not an issue. If you function fine and don’t think it’s a big deal, then why try to change anything?
I don’t know about that specifically, but autism goes from a cute quirk to a disorder around when it starts affecting your life or the life of others negatively. Not sure how you could have multiple personalities without it affecting anything negatively, though…
It’s like any neurodivergent situation where certain things just take work. There’s specialized apps that allow alters (personalities) to communicate and co-ordinate things like scheduling. From folks I have talked to there’s a lot of masking involved where folks with DID will collaborate across different alters to try to appear to be contiguous. A lot of the time from the outside they just seem kind of forgetful in a similar way that non-DID people can be. The source of DID is often severe trauma where the different personalities are created via partitions of memory so that no singular expression of self remembers everything all at once. This allows the whole to function as each peice has functionally a job to do. It’s at it’s core a coping mechanism taken to an extreme but it still functions as a coping mechanism.
Often times you really don’t know someone you’ve been around for years has it because they are scared to tell you. DID has a fair bit of stigma behind the condition.
I’ve known a few plural folks that seem to get on just fine. In all their cases it arose from trauma and was pretty disharmonious and confusing to begin with, but with time and awareness their alters work better together and by the time I met em I wouldn’t have known if they didn’t tell me. I don’t know if they’d say it never affects them negatively but they certainly didn’t need to be freed of it. If anything, plural identity seemed to be more of a solution than an active problem for them.
Personally, I can say I’ve been functioning better by discarding the idea that I should be one consistent self, because that idea caused the stress of choosing who my one self is.
Makes complete sense! Just like any other matter of identity, having to mask the true self(ves) in order to fit what the outside world expects is… draining and pointless. Not having to put up the front means so much more mental energy for everything else.
Appreciate your perspective in this thread, cheers!
When all the alters communicate with each other and work together. Most people have ‘aspects’ of their personality that they only show sometimes, and we call it ‘code switching’. It also happens when speaking different languages, people’s personalities change, but we think that’s normal. In therapy, for most people it’s called ‘parts work’ where you recognize that a part of you feels a certain way, but not all of you, and it’s OK to hold both of those feelings at the same time.
DID is usually caused by trauma that causes rifts between those aspects/personalities/alters and doesn’t let them communicate with each other. That’s when you start dealing with lost time, and waking up in strange places, so the real problem comes with the lack of intercommunication, aka dissociating.
It’s like a road trip with friends. If you’re all communicating and you say ‘Hey, I’m getting tired, can someone else drive?’ that’s fine. You might wake up somewhere new, but you can immediately ask ‘Where are we’ and get caught up. But if you don’t know that there are other people in the car, and think you’re doing the road trip by yourself, lose days of time and suddenly wake up somewhere that may or may not be the destination you were expecting, that’s a problem.
We all have parts. People with DID had their parts forcibly separated.
This tracks with what I have read about it as well, especially the languages part for someone bilingual.
For most people you don’t realize you have different aspects because they work together and transition so smoothly.
I mean, when someone is able to manage a condition, it doesn’t mean that don’t have the condition.
That’s true. I was hoping to convey that the disorder comes from the dissociation aspect of it. We aren’t born with our personalities already intact, they develop and unify around the age of 5-6, and DID is a response to trauma from before that age. So, we all have ‘multiple personalities’, but don’t consider them to be ‘separate’ because we can still communicate with them. Instead, we just consider them ‘aspects’ of a single personality, but it’s a gray area.
We aren’t born with our personalities already intact, they develop and unify around the age of 5-6, and DID is a response to trauma from before that age.
That’s the current prominent theory, but testing it empirically would be disastrously unethical.
condition ≠ disorder
Just because someone’s brain is weird in this certain way doesn’t mean they’re disordered. Disorder implies there’s something wrong that should be fixed, but many people with conditions will disagree that there is anything in need of “fixing”.
I have to disagree with all this. What you describe either IS a disorder or not multiple personalities.
We’re plural. Our lived experience runs contrary to your opinion.
That seems quite harsh. You’re basically telling systems that they’re either faking it or it’s a problem, but why are you the arbiter of that? It feels similar to transphobes or homophobes saying being trans/gay is either fake or something you should “fix”. You’re getting very close to using the medical system to enforce social standards on people who don’t conform to them under the guise of “disorder” where the patient is actually fine.
Sorry, there is an unspoken ‘in my option’ in what I said. I am not a medical professional, so no one should think that is the case. In fact probably no one in this discussion is qualified to express an opinion by that measure.
What do you mean by ‘telling systems’?“systems” is just the term for a group on one body.
And by “in my opinion” I think you mean “if I had it”? An opinion can still be harmful as outspoken bigots prove.
I have a friend with DID, but I’m not an expert. The media also portrays DID inaccurately most of the time, so it’s hard to explain when there’s disinformation from multiple angles. I’d recommend doing some independent research or talking to your therapist about parts works as a way to understand more.
I think a big problem with this thread is the framing, “being multiple people.” There is a lot of nuance here.
I think you are right. I seem to have too restricted a definition in my mind and ended up talking at cross angles to others. This is a topic I need to do some reading about.
Maybe if they were a legit collective consciousness hivemind
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That is not multiple personalities, though, just something most people go through.
To be fair, dating was very different in 2015.
I miss the pre-SESTA/FOSTA dating scene
What are these
They’re anti-trafficking laws created with relatively good intent. Pretty much unanimously passed the house and senate and got signed into law with little debate. But one thing they do is require website operators to hyper-moderate interactions on any site with potential matchmaking services, to a degree that no matchmaking service could be profitable while doing so unless it operated in the style of a dumbed down swipe-left-or-right service like Tinder. Thus all dating services are now dumbed down apps that work just like Tinder, and open forums like Craiglist pages have disappeared.
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Is it an apology though?
Somewhere there’s a line where an apology feels disingenuous because it is ignorant enough to be indistinguishable from insult.
We wouldn’t accept an unsolicited dickpic, even when motivated with something like “Oh, I just assumed since you ticked Woman that you’d leave the negotiation to your father, and I just wanted to show you don’t have to worry about the outcome. I’m raised traditional like that.”
It is technically an apology, but also even more insulting.
Yeah it read like baiting to me.
Old school negging
Which mistake?
It’s Danganronpa’s ‘schizo’ hangman all over again.
Wait, what chapter is this in? 🤣
The first game, I believe the second or third case
I guess I didn’t pay enough attention to the ‘game’ parts, because I don’t remember schizo. I barely even remember the hangman game.
It’s a riddle regarding “genocide jack” and an author with split personality, to keep it less spoilery - if you wanna know, you can google it with the name
TIL all systems are schizophrenic /s
He tried
To spell ?
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Tbf, schizophrenics are often awesome in bed.
