Context, I’m 30 now and i will find women my age and up attractive, but 15 years ago a 35 year old women would never have been attractive to me.
As I’ve aged younger women are less and less attractive (thankfully)
But when I’m 60 will 60 year old women be attractive to me?
It’s personal preference, but basically edge limits that increase over time, like at 15 you’re looking at ±6 months, at 20 it might be + or - 1 or 2 years. At 30 you’re probably at looking at 5 years either side of 30.
Once you hit 500 the attraction window is so large it becomes mostly irrelevant, and you’re judging more on aristocrical lineage and/or aristocrical diet.
It’s only a few more years til 1000 (which usually turns out to be a very dull party with no surprise guests) and by that point you’re lucky to find anyone attractive.
There’s obviously the old ‘hurr durr he’s over 2000 so he must be gay now’ stereotype, but as far as I can tell, attraction isn’t cyclical.
Hope that helps!
We’re generally talking humans here, not Time Lords.
Makes it weird that the Doctor generally travels with people 1-2% of his age. Bloody cradle snatcher!
They are kind of stuck. They have to find companions who don’t have children or responsibilities. The best majority of the people who land in those categories are younger folks.
Wow, how old are you ( if you don’t mind me asking)?
Do you want to know how old I am, or which aristocrats I’ve eaten 😘
Can I come to your party,? Maybe drink some of your blood? Idk #justsillythings?
Im 6 million years old now, and im attracted to literal planets.
I remember at 2000 the hur due jokes. But honestly everyone’s giblets are so shriveled at that age (unless enhanced through mummification etc) that gender becomes irrelevant. Kind of comes down to who has the best stories at that point.
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It’s hard not to be gravitationally attracted to them.
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I too like them thicc af.
That first paragraph…z then you really took off. lol
You might like this one too where I gave an explanation on what happens at parties:
Cool to see the edge cases for Elves and Vampires. What would be practical limits for humans?
Be really careful, I couldn’t tell which one exactly from your post, but as time goes on, you’re going to have to watch out either for people trying to drive a wooden stake through your heart, or chop your head off with a sword to steal your power. Just wanted to toss out a helpful FYI.
Looking forward to catching up with you at the Over 2800s party next week!
As soon as I saw this post I jumped on xkcd. Glad I checked the comments before replying, or I would have made quite the fool of myself.
Since turning 30 I’ve been thinking about the half-your-age-plus-seven rule a lot more. It would feel creepy as fuck to date a 22 year old. Is this all in my head? It feels predatory to swipe right on anyone younger than 25
I feel like there is a window that moves with you as you age. At 47 I find women attractive up to their early 50s, and down into their 30s.
I mean dating attractive here. I’m not going to try and claim that a hot twenty something on the telly does nothing for me
I’m 55 I find young women very attractive but I wouldn’t have sex with them. Sex changes as you get older. It slows down and it’s more psychological than physical.
Then again, I would not kick out 20 something yo out of my bed if she was already there…
Good thing that won’t be an issue.
I was starting to question myself here lol everyone acting like a hot 20 year old is no longer hot when you’re older meanwhile I see someone I consider attractive they’re always attractive, I just won’t approach them if they’re young.
The only way this doesn’t work is “upward” for me. 40s weren’t attractive when I was younger but they are now, but a hot 20 year old will always be hot to me (I think).
@TIN this is what I think happens too.
That’s what I hear happens. I’m sure the effect must stop working at some point, but so far I’m cruising.
Yeah i appreciate that women my age stay attractive.
I wonder what is the driving factor though.
Familiarity with the look, perhaps.
I think it’s rather similar level of maturity and points of interest. Like I may find college students physically attractive, but there’s quite a maturity gap between students and people who have been working full time for a couple of years that can be off-putting to me.
Got to be an interaction with our wiring and social constructs. We’re mainly wired to get along with our tribe, after all. Makes sense for sexual preferences to naturally hew to social mores.
Self-conditioning.
You like people you can have a meaningful interactions with, you are more likely to find sexual partners in that group, you fantasize about current or prospective partners, you end up building an attractiveness pattern that matches a certain age group.
“That’s what I love about these high school girls, man. I get older, they stay the same age.”
One of the men I’ve most respected and most trusted in my life told me once (at the time a teenager) that when he was in his 20s, women in their 20s were so hot and seeing a barely clothed young woman was so hot. But he said that now that he was in his 40s, women in his 40s were so hot and whenever he looked at a woman in her 20s all he could think of was that she could be his daughter and that he just felt protective and there was nothing hot or attractive about her.
I’m a woman, but when I was in my teens and early 20s guys in their teens and early 20s seemed so attractive and anyone older was not it. Now that I’m in my early 30s I’m so attracted to men in their 30s and I look at teens and guys in their early 20s and they just seem like babies to me. I actually deal with a lot of young guys with my work and they’re all cool people and I love talking to them, but dating them? Ugh, no thank you. They were in elementary school (or younger) when I was graduating high school. So yeah, I think for a lot of people your goalposts move as you move, and that’s not a bad thing. I also am curious as to whether I’ll someday find 60 or 70 year old men hot, but I’ve got a long ways to go.
I’m 30 now and i will find women my age and up attractive, but 15 years ago a 35 year old women would never have been attractive to me.
Lmao when I was 15 I was spanking the monkey to MILF porn. Thank you Deauxma and Nina Hartley.
Yeah but in the porn world, a MILF is just a 22 year old.
As the people we relate to change, so too do the things we find attractive in people. This will be a constantly changing thing
Consider that “attractive” won’t always be skewed so heavily towards appearance. As I’ve gotten older attitude and personality matters at least as much as physical appearance. When I was 25 I was probably 90/10 (appearance/personality), now (55) I’m probably 40/60.
So far what I learned, is that many factors play into attraction. Looks are one. A big factor for me is also seeing someone as an equal. Fuck dates are fine with much younger or older ones but dating and a relationship, nop. I want to take the other one serious, I want to be in about the same stage of life experience, to have similar goals and similar pop culture references (tv shows, music, games that we played as kids). Seeing someone as an equal comes with similar age for me.
Similar cultural references criteria would prevent dating someone who grew up in a different culture.
I’d imagine you accept what is realistically available to you. You’d not really have anything in common with people outside a certain window so as you age these “older” people are just your peers from a similar vintage so to speak so a lot of things make sense and are common between you and each year they just happen to be a year older…
god i wish most men were like this. but there’s 50 yr old men out there dating women fresh out of highschool, yuck
I had the hots for women in their 40s when I was a teenager ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
most hopefully they weren’t irresponsible enough to date a teen, that’d be just as yuck no matter the gender
Oh I was far too awkward to get involved in anything like that, along with its inappropriateness.
I understand where you’re coming from, but you’re expressing your taste and values in a very dismissive way
i dont get how calling someone that age dating a teen ‘yuck’ is dismissive lol
That’s not what you said, you don’t get to lecture me by pretending you said something else.
Anything illegal deserves more yuck than I can count, but expressing your personal taste towards things that are legal and socially accepted (while frown upon) by dismissing a behaviour that you personslly disagree with is… dismissive.
huh? it is literally exactly for word what i said, so what are you talking about??
“most hopefully they weren’t irresponsible enough to date a teen, that’d be just as yuck no matter the gender”
also, how am i lecturing you?? i dont even know you or anything about you. you replied to me calling my opinion dismissive and i disagreed, point out the lecturing. and anyway, why is there an issue with how i choose to express my opinion on something controversial, or anything in that matter? you find it dismissive that i think middle aged people dating legal teenagers is gross, okay, why should i care that how i expressed it is apparently dismissive??
OP doesn’t mention their gender.
true, i made an assumption. either way, its yuck to date someone fresh out of HS if you’re 10, 20, 30, 40+ years older. imo there’s no reality where an 18 year old should be dating a 30 year old, even though it is legal
I think that if people are of an age where they can legally and ethically consent, and if there isn’t any kind of abuse of power going on, it’s none of my damn business. Maybe people should just fuck off with pushing their ideas about morality on other people.
I don’t think you can date an 18 year old as a 30 year old without an automatic abuse of power. Even so, what does that say as the (middle aged) adult?
Wait, 30 is middle aged??
Nah gotta be between 500 and 1500 for middle age
im not pushing anything on anyone?? this is my opinion and i am allowed to have it, i’m not making any laws. i also agree with the other commenter that there’s no way a relationship between a 30 year old and an 18 year old doesn’t have an unbalanced maturity and power level dynamic. this is my opinion.
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All I know is that everybody says retirement homes are full of horny old people fucking all the time so maybe? Either that or old people just don’t care as much about attraction and are just happy all the parts still work
My guess is as an adult you’ll always be attracted to women around the 25-35 range most but maybe once you get old you’ll also find some stuff to appreciate in grannies
I have heard that you should divide by two and add 7.
I am 40, so that would mean I should be attracted to 27 year olds and up. Generally, it checks out. Caveats may apply, as people are, you know, different.
You eventually see different-dimensions of attractiveness…
Young women’s simple vitality is like a breath of fresh-air in the eyes, after living in the smoggy downtown, – but … their minds are too blank.
Sometimes you see gorgeous determination…
Sometimes you see profound depth, pulling at one’s soul…
Dwelling deeply in both yoga & meditation can do that, as I discovered a few years ago…
( I hadn’t known it’d be visible until seeing it! : )
Sometimes you see delightfully ferrocious multiple-intelligences in a woman…
but our world is so systematic about stomping-out girls’ & womens’ LivingValidity, LivingWorth, LivingPotential, & LivingOpportunity, that it’s too horribly common to see only 1 dimension of pulling-one’s-Eternity-to-them, for me, anyways…
I’m committed to ripping my Soul/CellOfGod from the endless-churn-of-OceanOfPhenomena/UniversesStream.
Solitude, Dwelling Within: war against my unconscious-ignorance.
Forever.
Someday one of the someones/personalities/lives that this-Soul has, will get the final breakthrough…
Someday, UniverseContainment will be broken, for this Soul/continuum.
Enlightenment can happen: the basic foundation-realizations exist, so therefore the rest of the structure, already-described long ago, must also exist.
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I understood this until I didn’t. What the hell kinda culty language is this lmao.
Pretty sure it’s the weirdest comment I’ve seen on Lemmy…
